Messy and disorganised. Drifting aimlessly from day to day. No goals. No idea how to plan ahead.
The sh*t will hit the fanbelt with the move. I just hope family can stop me falling too far into the abyss of disarray and unpreparedness .
I am relying on them to see me through in relative order and safety.
Hi @firemonkey.
You can try to improve.
I don’t know if you can improve, but you can try.
The most important thing is to survive and, if possible try to improve your health.
If you want and can work, go ahead.
If you have other activities that you like, go ahead.
Try to get out of the house more.
Try to do something.
Try to keep active.
Enough I believe.
Good luck.
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I find just creating a list of things that you want to do helps. Then every so often one gets crossed off the list as I actually get it done.
Call the list “I want to do:” and get listing!
The bureaucracy/logistics/practicalities is what is really throwing me. How will stuff get moved from Essex to Wiltshire?
A social worker would help but I guess so more if you are moving fairly local. The trouble is for treatment compliant, non self harming/non substance abuse taking chronically ill people like me SWs are hard to get.
Hire movers. I’ve moved loads of times. You’ll need to box everything up. Then they stick it into their van and move it and put the boxes into your new place.
I’d seriously avoid trying to transport it yourself with the help of family. That will probably end in disaster. Just speaking from experience.
Professional movers are a consideration but wouldn’t that cost an arm and a leg?I would still need help to pack and box stuff as I really struggle with that kind of thing.
Get some quotes. They’re not that expensive. Like I said if you don’t get movers though you’re letting yourself in for a heap of hassle. Big time hassle.
Ask your family for help with boxing the stuff up. You might have to order cardboard boxes if you don’t get them from the movers.
You’ll need one of these to tape up the boxes
Then you’re good to go!
I have done all my moves by myself with the help of family and friends…First thing, youi have to buy or rent a whiole lot of moving boxes. They usually are stored flat and need to be folded up into boxes. I would get at least twenty or thirty of them. Then you have them in your flat in a corner and take one and just go slowlly. Take a empty box and go into a room and start putting the small stuff in the box. Like books for exmaple and magazines and personal documents and papers. Put all that in boxes and get marker and write on the box what you put inside. Then pack one box after the other with your stuff: books, clothes, shoes, blankets and bedsheets, toiletries, and bathroom items, whatever you have that fits into boxes. When youre done with one room go to the next and start putting things into boxes. In your kitchen put the silverware into the box, and plates and glasses and cups etc. For the breakable things made of glas and ceramics you should get a bunch of old news papers and wrap them into the newspaper sheets. Just pack one box after the other until all smaller items are in boxes and the boxes and put all boxees in one room or corner of your flat, Not the hall way because you need to move the larger items too. Eventually when you have put all small things into boxes, the remaining things in your rooms are just large items like shelfs, armors, tables, chairs, closets, bed, plants, TV, washing machine, etc. If youi want to you can move them in whole and carry them down to the moving car in whole or if they are very big or heavy you have to dissasemble them. Put all screws for each furniture in a seperate plastic bag so they dont get lost. You can already do that ahead of the moving day and dissasemble the big stuff. The Bed needs to be dissasembled too but you can sleep on the matrass for the last night before your move. You need to get some friends or famiily together to help you on your moving day. Soembody who is a good driver should go early in morning of your moving day to a rental place and rent a good size transporter and drive it to your address and try to park it as close as possible to your place. Then you first carry down all the heavy big stuff with the help of your friends and family and put it into the back of the transporter. Put all the moving boxes into the transporter. Put any plants, TV, etc. Its would be advisable that one friend, always remains at the tranporter in the street to watch out that nobody steals and of your things. You pack as much into it as possible and have good dirver drve the trasnporter to your new place, Normally three people can sit int he front of a transporter and they come with you to your new place. The other people follow you in their cars. Then in the new place, unpack and bring to the new flat everything one by one… put all the boxes together and put all the larger furniture to theri places, the dissasembled ones wil lhave to be assebled but priority is to get everything into the new place. SO therefore, if you need to go twice and fetch the rest of your stuff you do that right away before you start assembling stuff again So maybe you need to go twice, expecially if the transporter is not so big. However when you made it to your new place with the first increments of stuff, first have a breakfast for everybody, just some coffee maybe and sandwiches. Then go for the second turn. Once everything is in the new place, spend the first night on your matress and just relax. You have plenty of time in the next days or weeks ahead to slowly put the furniture up, and then start unpacking your boxes with the smaller items. One thing i have not mentioned yet is that it would be good to use the opportunity of your move to make a clean up of stuff you dont longer need and try to throw away any old and useless thiings that you have been keepign in your basement, attick or elsewhere. If you think its still usable then try to take it with you to the new place and sell it. Once youre in the new place, then you need to do the contracts for utilities like gas or electricity with the suppliers of utiliteis. If you want a land line phone and internet, then you need to go to the phone company and get a contract for that. Btw, if you old place was a rental place then you need to give it back to the land lord cleaned up and you going to have to meet with him and turn over the pace to him officially with a protocal that notes anythig that is damaged and needs to be repaired at your cost. Normally in Germany any such repairs are made with the money that was given as security which normally amounts to two or three monthly rents. If nothing is broken then the land lord will hand you out the security in cash or transfer it to your account in due time. if youre renting the best thing is always to quit one place and immediatel start living in the new place the next followiing month, so you dont have to pay two rents at once. Good luck, mate. I hope this may help you a bit. .
I would say get rid of all the stuff you do not use or need. Phone a pawn shop and let them remove the stuff. Get hold of a charity to take all your old clothes and stuff. That way you can travel light. That is what I always do. I do not like a lot of stuff around me. I have clothes for a week. Two sets of linen and that is it. Why box and move a lot of stuff you do not use. What you cannot sell or give away you can throw away. That is just me. I do not know if it will work for you.
When it comes to clothes I can wear ie that fits me I don’t have much. My wardrobe is full of stuff that doesn’t nearly fit where I have put on weight in the last decade.
The clothes I choose from to wear are scattered on the spare bed. I wash it,tumble it, and then chuck it on there.