So I have revealed my illness in stages so far and it’s gone ok, my gf says she cares about me and just wants to understand me but I read that as code for you will f this up if you say too much.
So I explained about prodromal period and initial break and cause (acute use of psilocybin) and she is cool with that. I told her today that I had an episode 3 years ago due to not taking meds. And that I’ve been medicated since, doing relatively well.
My question is when and if I should reveal I still actively hear voices… I feel like it could be a deal breaker. I also feel like we could be closer before I reveal it if I do… Am I being unfair to her?
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I think you will be taking a chance by telling her and you just. have to tell her and see what happens. There’s no guarantees in life.
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Why tell her you hear voices? You already told her your on meds thats probably all she needs to know
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I won’t get into a relationship without the other party knowing about sz
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Nah man you don’t tell that. The less she knows, the better.
If you told her that much, just lie and tell her that you experienced a single psychosis cuz of drugs.
Btw you’r making things worse by doing the “revelation” in stages and hyping things up. If you gonna tell just tell her quick and be done… although I don’t advice u go this route…
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How did you two meet?
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I think sharing to much to SO will ruin things.
Sometimes it kills their mood if they knew what was going on.
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Good question. I guess if it was at the psych ward, there should be no worries lol
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We met online. I told her I had a dream about frogs and she thought I was weird.
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That’s awesome!
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May want to wait until she shares something vulnerable about herself if you really wanna tell her.
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I would have waited a few months before telling her, but now that the genie is out of the bottle this early in the game I wouldn’t hype things up even more.
Try to remain low key about your experiences especially if she has questions
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Thanks for the advice. I honestly don’t want to tell her I hear voices. It makes me feel weak. I don’t hear them when I’m with her or on the phone with her btw.
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Usually the women ive dated have had some form of MI themselves - strangely enough usually EUPD, so its not an issue in a conversation.
Its helped me too - cos im known to be a bit mad, and if they are too - its not judged.
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@Naarai how you been man?
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Frankly mate - a bit off my rocker. Im not taking the quetiapine during the day - cos im sick of the tachycardia which is giving me anxiety. And the depot jab is due in the morning so im lacking in meds in my body lol.
“vicky” has crept back. Im sort of ok tho - so long as i stay in the flat.
Shonas been doing my errands for me.
Its just a wobble.
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What happened to that date with your neighbor? I was excited for you to move on from shona
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Lol nah. It was just a “week long” stand without the sex lol.
Nice lady - but we both got issues and they were clashing if you see what i mean.
Still see her - and shes still affectionate - but ive put up boundarys cos it didnt feel right.
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Ahh that’s too bad. Well are you getting any from shona? What’s your next plan of attack?
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Lol. For my sins she is still about. Shes helped me alot latley to be honest. But nothing is for free - and its been costing me in my wallet lol…
That woman has got a hold of me lol. Ive had long conversations with the nurse about her.
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