there is the ‘too many rabbits’ situation where we are heading for 10 000 000 000 people maybe within my lifetime.
and there is the situation where any child would likely be unwanted because I’m too disabled to care for them - I would be completely barking mad - there is no way i could handle the stress and cope in any way
I think there is a finite number of days where i can feel happy and i think it would be a crime to put my stability at risk for someone (a child) who would probably kill me through stress - stress has nearly killed me already in my life just from studying !!! so how can i have a child if i my limit is one year of college (if that)
I feel very sorry for myself for having a cat allergy.
I have tried to stop touching my 2 cats unless i wash my hands straight after
this is to try to keep allergens at bay a bit so that my mild allergy doesn’t get worse.
I’m lucky though - with mild autism linked to sz - i have an Aspie husband and we are in love and married.
my cats have been my babies.
am i too wistful?
I’m 42, and probably within a year or so I’ll have menopause
I’m not sure I’ll be well enough within my window of fertility to be able to commit to taking care of a baby. But it’s possible. I still have a lot I would need to accomplish first. And I would need to be economically stable.
I too think about the stress involved and wonder if I can handle it.
I am concerned about bringing a kid into this f*cked up world, as well…
yeah - i think a baby also has to go to school aged about 5 until at least 16, and how awful seeing a young person go through all the ‘never never mind your bleeding heart, bleeding heart’ i’d have to go through as a parent
no worries, it’s fine. yeah, I feel kind of ill-equipped to explain torture, genocide, climate change etc to my own child. I’m not sure I would know how to make them feel at ease. all in all, I have to think about it for a few more years. if it’s not in the cards for me, I can accept that.
Well, all I can say is unless you really, really want children, use protection.
Children don’t ask to be born, so if you don’t think you can give your baby 100%,
Don’t take the chance.
I had a child. We looked into the DNA repercussions. Knowing there was a 50% risk, we went ahead and had the child. It was a biological urge on my wife’s part that brought here to me with this request. She needed to fulfill this need of her body at that time. I gave my assent without really thinking about it. My daughter is dead. She committed suicide in a state mental hospital at the age of almost 19.
What kind of culture expects you to spit out a few ~ healthy children- naturally, If you yourself (not you personally) are not, and say you don’t believe you could?
Where are these folks to help out after the baby is born ~ not a soul in sight to help.
So my response to that stale stupid question “Do you have any children?” depending on my mood of course, is:
Yeah, sure do…somewhere… not sure where, last time I saw them was when I dropped them off at the park last week.
Oh Gosh NO, I don’t breed well in captivity.
(with a dead serious face) OH NO, I knew I forgot something!
Hmmm, maybe, let me look around a bit, I’ll let you know if I find any.
(Flips out iPhone with 14 thousand pictures on it) Yes I do, let me show you some pictures --of my cats.
Simple in the decision to have, or have not?
Not sure, from my brother’s experience: 2 mother’s 2babies, he’s the one who took care of the kids, the mothers both decided after having them that they weren’t wanting to be a "mommy."
Good thing he wanted to be a father.
I am worried I would not have the energy for children. I know I don’t have energy for my little sisters and cousins. I even had a sad dream about it where I had a child and then just left them watching TV all day and they got closer with my mom than me because I didn’t spend enough time with them.
my mother in law, mom and partner all want us to have kids. but with my problems and being on medication that has stopped my periods and then my partner has had her own fertility issues. we may never have kids not even allowed to adopt here in Indiana thanks to the former governor
My husband and I are trying for kids but we both have illnesses (me sz and him epilepsy) so maybe its for the best that we didnt get yet. Been married for nearly 5 years. I don’t know if i could handle a child, maybe i could, but i am not desperate for kids, I am not really a children person anyway. I leave it up to God to decide if we get any. He knows best if we could handle them! I wouldn’t mind having no kids, the only thing I’d miss is my children looking after me if i get old.
I already had a child but, he died, unfortunately. I don’t have any grandchildren or great grandchildren so, I guess I fit into that category of being without grandchildren anyway and being presently childless. I also have no husband or boyfriend nor wife or girlfriend. I am truly all alone in this world. And loving it.