I’m trying to date and find a women to share my life with but it’s been really rough!
I don’t have a hard time talking to girls, in contrary, (even though it’s not as often as I like) I talk to them easily. And when I do, most of the time I’m able to click but when it comes to knowing each other it gets downhill fast and usually ends up in heartbreak for me. I don’t tell them directly or very soon that I suffer from schizophrenia/depression but when I give off signals that something is “wrong” with me: Like being honest that I do not have a job, don’t care about money, don’t have much hobby’s (except going to the gym) have no high education or will ever have a high income, that even though I’m 33 and still live with my parents or tell them I have something to tell her about myself but it’s to early I usually get rejected without getting involved into a romantic relationship. In one way, I’m glad that I don’t trust anyone too early with my psychiatric background on the other hand it still adds up to feeling more miserable, lonely and depressed every time this happens.
I could be wrong but it feels like men have a tougher time getting involved into romantic relationships.
I also have the idea that women have it much easier to pick out the “right” partner in this technology/digital age we live in…
Anyway, is someone else into dating and gets rejected often for no apparent reasons? How do you handle it?
If so, or if not, how do you guys handle loneliness? It makes me so depressed that if it were up to me I would sleep all day.
what i am doing just now is forgetting the mobile apps and just concentrate on my own personal relationships, i.e. friends/ family, also i am trying to expand my social circle which i agree can be a really hard thing to do what with social anxiety etc
but if you do try and join groups and meet new people, it feels so good to talk to other people esp if it is a group of mental illness survivors, people that can relate in some way and try and support each other,
don’t be shy in saying ‘are you ok?’ bc if you care about others i have found that most people will return the compliment.
You live with your parents. If you have a girlfriend, can you afford to take her out sometimes? Do you have a place you can spend time with her? If you are 33 and live with your parents and don’t have a job, you really need to look women who are in the same place as you.
If I was single, it would be really rare for me to go out with a guy who lives with his parents I don’t think I would, if I lived in USA. In my hometown, yes though.
People, women and men are attracted to people who are full of file, are ambitious and have plans.
Put yourself in the woman’s shoes. If you are a 30 year old woman, who has a nice job, lives alone, has a few hobbies, what kind of a guy would you look for? Think about it and then try to become that guy if you really care in finding a partner.
I don’t think I would, if I lived in USA. In my hometown, yes though.