How do you change a person from a bad anti social person into a nice person?
It’s very hard. Most people don’t change that much in their lifetimes, other than aging.
In my past, I spent a lot of my time trying to change others, including my ex wife - Big Mistake!
The truth is that you cannot change others - You can however change things in your own life - making your life easier for yourself makes perfect sense
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I’m in the same boat as @Wave -
I really don’t think one can change others… what I think happens is… I change myself… I change how I live my life… and that makes other people either treat me differently or fade from me.
Change comes from within… then with that change from within… it modulates out… but again… I didn’t change them… they changed themselves based on their perceptions.
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Awareness of having antisocial qualities is key. A psychopath is no longer a psychopath if they admit to it, although they may have the same impulses and judgmental thinking, for example. I actually scored in the pathological range for psychopathic deviance on the MMPI-2 but have had cathartic outlets and a cultivated conscience. One way to know if you are antisocial is to get super drunk and observe how you think and behave. Jk not recommended that was a joke. But yeah, to change, one must truly desire to change. I wanted to change when I was 19 and it was healthy for me to actually view people as people and not look down on them or be preoccupied with getting them to do things for me. Now I don’t come across as psychopathic, I just seen a little odd and maybe “metal” is the right word, that is an adjective used by youngsters these days. I actually am a only 21.
I’m a psychology student and I have been taught that antisocial personalities require psychotherapy and a desire in the patient to change. That is the textbook and final exam answer. My answer is that the afflicted individual must see their flaws and how these flaws are detrimental to his/her life and then desire to fix them. I would know because I have received psychotherapy for being a little demonic some of the time.
I still am someone people do not piss off, I am still remembered for going berserk that one time and getting apprehended by seven cops, ect. That happened when I was 19. I have some flair of being a little psychopathic in that I am very into lifting weights and have a few belts in hand to hand combat. I no longer associative with people soley as means to ends, lol look at me using college words and phrases, but I still am judgmental and oh boy am I egotisitical to an extreme. I am dominant in bed, like to compete, and never turn down a challenge unless it drives me insane or is not appropriate. An example would be a day in the week- I go to class, am extroverted and speak up, I always workout on schedule and wear punky clothes, and pretty built by the way, you may have seen a picture of me on these forums, and I listen to slipknot most of the time, I then stay awake in bed being angry but that’s probably the illness and not my personality, but I’m a cluster fudge so who the hell knows. I no longer reek of psychopath but when I was 19…lol. I sat in the back scowling and didn’t say a word, did not want to speak to anyone, didn’t speak at all, no friends or aquiantances, workout and jerk off every day, shooter games while screaming, you get the picture.
Was a saying I heard a long time that goes…Never teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time and just annoys the pig. Lifes about accepting people for who they are. Not trying to change them into what our warped minds think normal is. . Not that you can’t help them deal with their issues as has and will have a great impact on who they are. The other is how many psychologists does it take to change a lightbulb? …One but the lightbulb has to want to change… Old habits die hard but we can all change if we put our minds to it. We may need some help though. None of us has to go through life alone. So If you are referring to yourself might I recommend therapy. .
In many cases most people don’t get help till they have nothing left. An unfortunate reality of life. Some people take awhile to take advice on board. So you may have had an impact even though you don’t see it as it may take years and years for them to see. Main thing is if you are supporting someone always look after your own mental health first and foremost.
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I’ve never heard that… 
I like that very much.
Thank you for that… 
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You can’t change people people have to change on their own
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I second what Anna says.
Think of all the women (or men) living eith abusive partners. They believe they can cange them to be nice and stop drinking and so on. But it never happens! The change must come from the person acting “wrong”. You can’t change another person.
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Hmmmm but are many therapies that do just this???
The person has to want to change. If he or she does not want to change a therapist can’t do it either. My dad is one of those persons.
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Yes but in order for therapy to be successful the individual has to be willing to change.
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