By change I mean their personality.I know some things come with age,but I think my personality changed from self centered to someone who cares about other people opinions during years.My opinion towards sexuality changed,and I don’t see women like I did when I was younger.Also,does change comes with illness,I don’t know,but last two months I’ve been thinking about for first time that I have serious illness and that need to take care more about my health (and self).I’m soon 45
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It’s an interesting question and no easy answers. I tend to think we replicate behavior that rewards you. Whatever that is though changes among people. For example. I think people in relationships with cheating behavior do that and rarely change. It’s just how they approach relationships.
Can you change you personality. Sure. Takes a lot of work I’d say or some extreme conditioning!
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Thank you…
I think it depends on which medications your on.
Sz will probably make most people more humble or shy or troubled. Have you seen a doctor he or she can tell you if you are sick…
Yes @Wave,but I don’t think it’s just meds.I’ve changed meds so many times,but for two months,(and you are right about that that),I only have better view how much I’ve changed from youth.I’m still struggling,though…
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My sister tells me I was nice as a kid but I did a bunch of mean things that I would never do as an adult. One thing that changed me was getting clean and sober. I went from lying, cheating, manipulating, and not thinking of anyone else and using people to being a responsible, trustworthy member of society. I tried to live by the principles of AA. I’ve slipped many times but I fight to remain a good person.
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@77nick77,thank you,I was speaking from deep of my soul.I’ve hurt so much people before,and made similar mistaques ,been drinking a lot in teens until my 23.I had two black outs,when I couldn’t remember how I went from one place to another.Treated women without any respect,thats why I’m afraid to have a girlfriend,cause I think that when I get in cycle with one will return to bad person as I was
Changing takes work. Part of changing means refraining from doing bad behavior. Self-restraint and thinking first before acting is key. The rotten stuff we did as teenagers was because even in high school we were still just 17 or 18 year old kids. And being kids we did bad stuff without thinking twice about it. But we don’t have to repeat that behavior. You can make up for past behavior by behaving better now.
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Years ago I was a binge drinker and when I was drunk I would not stop drinking and always got in to trouble and became “easy” with out wanting to be as such.
I cheated on x boyfriends when I was drunk and I have changed.
After I had cancer I stopped drinking alcohol and was celibate for five years.
I was with my last boyfriend for two years and was faithful although we only had sex once every four months I would never want to do wrong by him who I live and care for.
I have changed my behaviour thankfully and I believe people can improve themselves and change specially if drugs and alcohol were making them bad and they quit.
I can’t handle alcohol.
I would wnd up in strangers homes not knowing how to get home, have sex on tables and get in so much trouble and embaress myself and others.
To quit alcohol is one of the best things I’ve done I’m just sorry it took so long but when I had voices the only thing that made them go away back then was being ridiculously drunk or being asleep.
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I guess you have to hit bottom once to change your self.Didn’t realize that until now.
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What I was told once by my counselor is that positive change either comes slowly or not at all when it comes to personalities and opinions. Too bad that’s not true about weight gain or aging.
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I needed a bit cheer up… 
@Blizzard,@SacredNeigh7,@77nick77,I see you in different way now.Thank you for responding.
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Yes I do believe so, usually with either great compassion or great tragedy.
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Or both…
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