It’s not my money anymore it’s my mother but they video call me and get sad faces for me then I soften up and hand over my moms money to them because I have no money left.
How do I stop giving them money? what do I tell myself? okay this is not okay this is my moms money not mine!
Should I just ignore their messages and calls doesn’t seem like they will go away soon for a while that one girl I gave money too for two years took almost a year to leave me a lone and in the begining it was hard to not give like once you give someone something it becomes habit and you hurt when you can’t do it but like I said It’s my moms money not mine and she has bills and stuff so am I throwing my mom under the bus for some african punani.
How do I handle this situation properly so I don’t give my moms money away to a person asking me for it?
and how do I not roll back on my stance even if they start charming me and video calling me.
they might even send nudes so how am I supposed to deal with that?
Block ignore?
yolo the situation and just forget about it and eventually they’ll go away? right? right?
that one girl message me today but she’s pretty much given up on asking for money now haha.
I’m sorry you sound vulnerable to people taking advantage of you. You need to talk to your therapist about this. You’re endangering your and your moms lively hood if you keep this up.
Why not stick to porn. You can choose whatever you want and its free. Its not like what you’re is anything better, its still not a true love relationship. These girls are not your gf, they just want your money without loving you. Idk about you but for me true love is more statisfying.
I been like this vulnerable to this since I started latuda. I can’t help it I knwo for a fact it’s the medication causing the vulnerability in my psyche Im now indebt and 12k in the hole. I opened other credit accounts just to keep giving various woman or scammers money. I had a 850 credit score that I built up from 2006 to 2018. It all started when I met a twitch streamer named carnell stewart for six months I gave her 1000 in her twitch channel but things went sour because of my bad attiude and the way I treated her on another social media app. Then in 2019 I met a real bad person connie who scammed me for 5000 then 3000 then 900 all she did for that 900 on a new credit card was send me a picture of her and I lost the 1250 between connie mara jones and victoria both of these people never came on cam and I talk to mara on the phone and she sounded like a man or young african boy.
so I moved onto cam apps like bigo uplive and live me so I lost even more money because those sites are even more awful and take your money worst so I thought moving to cam apps would help instead it’s hurt me and my mother even more.
at this point I’ve deleted snap live me uplive and don’t waste my time
Carnell was like a gateway into this world but at this point I know what I’m doing is wrong and have to stop or we’ll be homeless
I’m starting to get it but it’s hard when these woman are parading there beauty to me and I"m trying to break free. I already broke the chains of the original scammer named connie but it’s hard to break free from a woman who smiles at you and kisses you on camera asking for some small cash.
connie is nothing compared to how these woman are throwing themselves at me for money or BTC even the ones that come on cam
I really think you need help. This is the first step that you are realizing this. So the next step is to stop this immediately. Same time let your docs know what you’ve been doing.
Like when is your next appt. Someone in your medical team needs to know this. I just don’t think you can fix this on your own.
I’m afraid to tell my psych doctor or therapist what’s really going on I been like this since I was 17 even though I can talk now i feel embrassed if I verbalize what I been doing. for four years now.
but I hinted at being indebt to my psych doctor and my therapist started asking questions but I renigged on giving true information to her I was scared.
They’re just using you for your money. Once you stop giving them money, guess how many of them are going to stick around?
You don’t owe them anything, you’re not obligated to give away free money. Cut them off, don’t give away any more. If they know your situation and they are still taking your money, that means they don’t care about you., so why should you care about them?
If you’re doing this to get some sex out of them or something: it ain’t going to happen. If that’s the reason you give girls money you are throwing money down the drain, it will never happen. If this is how you get women to be your friends or get women to talk to you or get women to like you then you got to stop it now. It’s not real, they’re just playing you. They might not even like you, they just found some poor sucker who if they act like they like you, you’ll give them money. Sorry, I don’t mean to be so harsh but this is what your situation sounds like. They’re just using you for your money. You don’t owe people like that anything so stop giving them anything.
so your saying every single woman I’ve talked too since 2018 just wants money?
There’s maybe Only one other woman whos talked to me maybe 2 or 3 that hasn’t asked for money! out of like 20 or 30 lol
We’ve talked for about the same time I met connie so about three years.
I’ve talked less and less with them but it’s not a romantic conversation or sexual it’s more platonic.
There’s a woman claiming she isn’t in it for the cash and has gone out of her way to prove it other than that every single black african female or guy pretending to be a woman has asked for CASH.
This is a real eye opener sometimes i do feel obligated but it’s not my money so I really can’t spend it.
I’m not sure what you mean by that. You mean out of 20 or 30 women all of them have asked for money except two or three of them?
I don’t know what all your relationships with women are. All I’m saying is don’t give money to women for free. If any woman regularly accepts money from you, that woman is probably not a nice person and is in it just for the money.
First of all, there are plenty of free websites for nudes.
Second…
Those women don’t care about you at all. They don’t love you, they don’t enjoy your company.
If you died, the only thing they would say is “aww now he can’t send me money”.
Meds or not, you need to take responsibility for your actions.
If you really feel you can’t control it, ask those around you to keep you from getting access to money.
You can’t honestly think getting nudes is more important than your mum paying bills?
I’m trying not to judge, but dude, that’s selfish amd dumb, and you need to do all you can to stop that behavior, even if it means being completely cut off from money and credit cards.
lol