I’ve not met him but my mums friend want to introduce me to this guy. The guy has my number. She mentioned his English isn’t good but I don’t understand him through his texts much. I didn’t think it would be that hard to understand him when I told her I’d meet him. I can speak his language but it makes me uncomfortable. As bad as it sounds I want my potential partner to speak English with me. Can just about make out what he’s saying via text. Says we should arrange to meet. I’m sure he’s a nice guy but I don’t think it will work. She told me he’s illegal but if he buys his own passport to leave the country it will be 2 years before he can return and 5 years if kicked out. TBH if he wants citizenship I ain’t going to help him. I don’t feel like meeting him but Because I told my mums friend I I don’t know what to do.
Is he an indian???
just tell them now is not a good time your super busy …
Yes he’s indian which isn’t the point. If he was indian and was legally here and could speak English I’d be happy to meet. But he’s illegal , works illegally and I find it hard to talk to him.
He texted me this morning just now I told him might find it difficult to understand and communicate and I wished him well.
Do whatever u like…afterall it iz ur life. Take care…
@anon80629714 I am glad you told him it wouldn’t work out…you don’t need that kind of strife in your life !!
He could be using you to gain his citizen ship. There aren’t many nice ways you can tell a person to get lost. Try to be nice about it, but don’t be surprised if he takes it personally.
What does your parents say about him being in England illegally and working illegally? Do they know?
Doesn’t sound that bad
Why not just tell your mother to mind her own business? You’re an adult and you are responsible for your own relationship decisions.
Mum wouldn’t approve as she knows the problems it would cause.
Except I told my mums friend I’d meet him in front of mum. Mum never had a say in it. I didn’t realise the situation was that bad
Just say you changed your mind, you texted and don’t think you have much in common, or the right chemistry.
You don’t owe an explanation, but if you want to say something it’s hard to argue with “no chemistry” which is a nice way to say you didn’t dig him. 
He sounds rather borderline and probably just after citizenship I think some of your family are in on it . Think the best thing is to tell your mum tbh.
If you’ve already told them you’d meet him, then use the opportunity to tell him in person why you feel it wouldn’t work out. Maybe just meet over a coffee and keep it short and sweet…the “meeting” that is, not the coffee.
Well I did that already as mentioned but via SMS because I couldn’t understand him 
Well my mum never met him. Neither has any of my family. It’s just my mums friend who knows him. Doubt my mum wants to be paying any of the solicitor fees to fight to keep him here.