How can I forgive it

When my fiance cheats on me, hurts my feelings, says f you when I tell him I am hurting.

Potentially giving me PTSD seizures for the first time because I have significant trauma around being cheated on and gaslit by my first boyfriend.

I don’t know if or how I can move forward with him. It’s breakig my heart to pieces. He knows I love him with my entire soul,why would he hurt my feelings so repeatedly and while I’m begging him to stop.

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He asked me to set a date for the wedding and I chose Halloween and he said no because it would potentially hurt someone’s petty feelings and he said I over reacted when I got upset about it even though I was fully in control of my emotions and just having big ones. He used my PTSD seizures as an example of how I over react. It smhurts so much. I don’t know how I can be with someone who hirts me so deeply.

That’s not nice I’m sorry but I’d call the wedding off

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If I was in a relationship and someone cheated on me I would dump them because I would know that deep down they didn’t love me. You know, if it was real love you’d feel safe with your fiance. You seem to be scared that it would happen again, and it probably will.

I think you need someone to talk to… I see that you are struggling, and that this is taking something from you. You are somebody and you’ve been really down. Perhaps this is bringing up a side of you that you don’t like.

I’m sorry to say this but the best thing would be to call the wedding off and try to gather yourself because right now you are in pieces. I think your fiance knows which buttons to push and when he does that he says that you overreact.

I don’t think you are in a good headspace at all and emotionally you seem to be a wreck. I know I would be. It’s not your fault, even though your fiance perhaps makes it sound that way.

Anyone, including me would be having hellish emotions right now. And that’s because something is telling you that something is not right.

I think you need to get away for a while. Do you have that option?

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Because people will get away with what they can get away with. He either knows or is learning now that he can hurt you and treat you bad and you will still stay with him. So he will keep doing it.

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The bad things is I have all early signs of pregnancy but it may be too soon to know

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Don’t mean to be controversial but maybe open relationships are not for you any more. They seem to be hurting your health and causing fidelity issues. Maybe you should find someone’s whos monogamous and settle down.

Get a test is my suggestion

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I don’t think me being poly.is the issue because of one partner

I have tested and it’s negative but it’s too soon to test positive definitely. I have all pregnancy signs including changes to my cervix.

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It’s up to you. My spouse cheated on me early on. I see others flaws and mistakes as I am not an angel never have been myself.

It’s a matter of intention.

Did my spouse intend to hurt me.

In some cases yes. In fights. We try to hurt each other.

A lot of times we both regret what happened and how we fought.

Early years of our relationship we hurt each other a lot. Also broke up. Got back together a lot. Learned a lot.

One thing we did over the years was forgive for real. Forgiving for real is the most important thing.

It’s up to you.

Do you guys have to go through a lot to make a long lasting relationship or just move on when things get rough.

You are right to be angry.

I am just here to say since you are trying to figure out things. Do you trust him deep down. Can you forgive. Will this happen again.

People are all flawed.

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Oh wow I see, wishing you blessings in your pregnancy if it turns out you are. :pray:

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Good luck froge… I’m sorry he’s treating you like that … You deserve better

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