I am extremely emotionally inept. I feel like I messed up and did some things I shouldn’t have towards my boyfriend. He says that I didnt mess things up and that I didnt do anything wrong. This confuses me. He just accepts me and what I did. He doesnt ever yell at me when I do things wrong or make a mistake or mess up. If it was something big he talks to me and accepts me. I dont know how to handle that. It upsets me and makes me want to yell at him to stop. To tell him to scream and yell at me because at least I know how to handle that. I dont even understand why I get like this and I hate it because I know that it only burdens others.
I guess it depends on how bad it is wat you did. Maybe you’ve blown it out of proportion in ur mind what you did.
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It sounds like you’re trying to have him behave towards you based on your lack of love for yourself. Unfortunately, what you want is really unhealthy. You should talk about this with a therapist and work through old patterns of self demeaning behaviors
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@anon90843118 I for sure blew it out of proportion. In reality I didnt do anything bad. I was just stressed out that day and my mood was really wonky. I also hadn’t had good sleep in about a week, which didnt help, so in my mind anything I did that day was wrong. I’ve calmed down now and come to my senses.
@LilyoftheValley I know that that’s what a part of me wants. A small part although it’s very loud. I don’t actually want him to act that way. It’s just that, that day it was hard to fight that small part of me. (We’ll call it the old me.) Usually I can keep old me back and keep myself slipping back into bad habits but I was mentally weak that day due to multiple factors and I had a little setback. I’ve calmed down and am better. This might strike up some controversy but I wont talk to a therapist since I haven’t seen a therapist in about two years. If I did they would tell me what I already know. At this point I dont need a therapist I just need to employ what I already know. And other than minor setbacks (which happen with or without therapy) I’ve been doing good and have continued making progress towards bettering myself.
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Well it sounds like you’ve thought this through so that’s good
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