My fiancé was having a bad day so I offered to come sleep over to help make him feel better. I tried to hug him and he practically pushed me off then he laid down on the floor and he’s making me sleep on the bed while he sleeps on the floor. And he wouldn’t even answer me when I asked if he was ok. We’ve also had sex once in the past two months. He treats me like this every single time he’s upset. Then he gets pissed off at me for “making it all about me” when I cry because he treats me like dirt for trying to help him. Honestly I feel like he doesn’t even love me sometimes
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I’m sorry. How long have things been this way with you guys?
You have a fiancé,do you know how many people here doesn’t even have a B/G friend?
I only have a relationship which lasted 3month,and the closest one of recent is a girl I Meetup with.We eventually didn’t get together for some reasons.My situation seems worse then you,don’t get upset
@Gtx1990 it’s really rude to respond to someone else’s legitimate problem by comparing it to your own. You have problems, she has problems, we all have problems. It’s a support site, not a competition.
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I didn’t say it was a compeitition.I was just trying to make her feel better by sharing what I been through.You have mistaken.
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You might want to see where your fiance is going with this type of behavior. If it looks like he is escalating it you might want to re-evaluate the relationship. It sounds to me like you could be headed for a relationship where your partner constantly brings you down. That’s no way to live.
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Thanks guys, I’m gonna talk to him today. He apologized for being so mean to me when we woke up, but apologies only go so far so many times. This has been an issue for about a year
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A year is far too long. Behavior like that is unfair to you. I hope you talk goes well, because things can’t just continue this way indefinitely.
If he’s upset he probably wants his space. It’s a guys way of dealing with whatever he is upset with
I have a fiance story. I and my former US spouse got engaged in Galveston, Texas and then came my time to leave the US and I went to Europe and maintained this relationship with long distance calls from many European major cities, we did not see each other for months, and then I had to complete my military service in Europe and again we did not see each other for months, but again we made these long distance calls from Europe to the USA and from the USA to Europe. I probably spent over 1000 USDs in these long distance calls, but the relationship survived. Well this was 25 years ago. - the time before the Internet.
I am sure you can solve your problems with your fiance. Good luck.
I would find it very strange if my husband ever did that to me. But sometimes my man does like to be left alone when he has a bad day for a couple of hours. That’s normal I think.
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maybe he is upset about something that we might seeem trivial but to him he migh think its the end of the world and cant discuss it with you or anyone cos hes embarrased to talk about his feelings(if he was rought up that way) or maybe he thinks hes ill and darent go n get it checked out so he needs you there just in case.
he loves you cos he needs you there n maybe the sex is a symptom of him thinking hes got a massive prolem (i do that most of the time and my huby gets upset if i dont react if he comes on to me).
just be there hunni he will tell you when hes ready xxxxxx
lots of hugs xxxxxx
I tend to retreat into my own world if I’m upset.
i’m sorry, relationships are a lot of work. sometimes its best just to leave the other one alone and let them sort out their feelings I know its hard to see a love one in any kind of pain.
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So he was better today and I talked to him about last night. He apologized and told me he thinks he has sz like I do. The scariest part is that I actually can see what he’s talking about. But if he does have it I’ll be there for him because I love him and I know what it’s like so I can help him get comfortable with being mentally ill the way I am
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Oh man, @PrincessKenny, that’s tough. He needs to see a pdoc right away.
Yeah I have a lot more sympathy now that he told me why he was upset
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Are you still in contact with your ex wife?
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