There is this homeless man bothering me. He stands in front of the grocery store. He always starts talking to me and I try to avoid him. Usually I just keep walking while he keeps talking.
Today he started begging me to buy him food. He’s done this twice and it ends up with me buying him a footlong sub from the store.
I don’t like giving people on the street money because I know that they drink and use drugs until they are broke. Then they go hungry. There’s a meal center close by where poor people can eat.
Now he knows I buy him food, which I don’t want to do. I don’t want to have to do with people in public, period.
I don’t know how to get rid of him! What should I do?
Homeless people get welfare in my country. They also get assisted living as long as they don’t drink or use drugs. If they indeed are homeless and broke it means they’ve used the money to alcohol or drugs and they have an addiction problem.
I’m just feeding their addiction if I’m being nice.
Be rude, ignore him. Say no and stick to it. I’ll give homeless people money and food unless they’re aggressive about it. I feel like I’m doing them a favor and I don’t need anyone being rude or pushy when they want my hard-earned money.
Look at it this way, this guy want’s things his way, you want things your way. if it comes down to it, you have to put yourself first. I’m thinking you don’t have a lot of extra money so it’s a big deal when you give it away and no one should feel or act entitled to your money.
He doesn’t know how much money you have. Lie to him and tell him you have no extra money.
I think a lie is OK in this case.
Yeah, I’ll tell him that. I just hope that he stops bothering me.
I don’t understand why security doesn’t do anything? He keeps bothering people and smells a lot. Perhaps if I tell the security guard that he is bothering people then they’ll talk to him?
I don’t want to be an as-s-hole about this. But him bothering me needs to stop.
Do both. Say what I say and start complaining to the store. If security doesn’t handle it, ask to speak to the manager. If they refuse to help, contact corporate. Where there’s a will, there’s a way
I used to really want to help, but then I lived in Oakland among lots of people asking, and the security guard from the nearby gas station I got my cigs at (I used to smoke) told me very sternly not to give them anything, or they’d repeatedly seek me out again and it would make his job harder. You gotta remember we aren’t in a great position to help, most of us. Let the richer folks help. That’s my thought process anyway. Just my two cents.