The holidays can be a rough time for everyone. This is the thread for venting about your family, seeking company so you don’t feel alone, and just generally helping each other get through the holiday in one piece. For those of you outside the US, today is US Thanksgiving.
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Tomorrow I am hosting what my friend has affectionately dubbed Transgiving. All my trans friends who got kicked out of their families are coming to my house to just enjoy life together. We aren’t calling it thanksgiving because one of the girls is Native American and she is really against Thanksgiving but wants to be part of a close gathering of friends.
I’m not spending it with my family because I don’t want to deal with the drama.
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Thanks for this thread!
This will probably be my last time seeing the uncle whose wife is hosting our dinner tomorrow. He has terminal brain cancer and he’s getting hospice care; his carers don’t think he’ll make it to Christmas. 
I’m grateful for this chance to see him, plus my long distance boyfriend will be there, so I’m trying to stay upbeat about the whole deal.
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I’m stressed the ■■■■ out!
My mother in law is insisting on making several things for Thanksgiving dinner, she’s going to be nothing but in the way with her constant need for help and giant ass walker.
Not to mention the fact that she’s going to boss me about the things that she’s not even involved in making.
Oy vey,
I’m not looking forward to tomorrow.
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I love the idea of Transgiving! I hope you all have a wonderful time!
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Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday but I have to work on Friday so have to call it early. I think this will be the first time in my life I have ever worked the Friday after Thanksgiving unless I was deployed in the military.
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I’m sorry. It’s really tough watching someone you love go through that. When my dad’s cancer spread to his brain, it started affecting his speech and his personality.
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My uncle died on Sunday. Hope yours has more time. Bless you.
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Thank you both. 
he was diagnosed back in spring and it’s just been a slow decline since then except for recently, when he’s started having moments of not knowing where he is when he’s at home or not knowing who his wife is. She’s understandably heartbroken.
I’m sorry for what you two have been through as well.
I’ll be thinking of all of you. I hope everyone’s day goes better than expected.
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I’m a bit hurt that none of my family wanted to come to my house, but I’m very grateful to be able to give my friends a place to go tomorrow.
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I’ve never really liked thanksgiving, it’s always made me miserable and annoyed to be around family that I know always secretly gossips about each other and fakes their interactions with passive aggressive overtones.
I’m very happy to be moved out and away from that sort of environment.
Best wishes to all partaking in the holiday and hope all goes well!
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I used to go to my grandparents every thanksgiving. I haven’t been in almost 13 years. I refuse to ever interact with my brother again, and I think it’s awful that they keep inviting him when they know what he’s done. They think I’m a disgrace because I won’t just forgive him and let it go. But in order to forgive someone, they actually have to be sorry and try to make amends. And the only way he could make amends is by turning himself into thet cops and spending the rest of his life in jail. Then, I might forgive him. But he’s not sorry. He just doesn’t want to face the consequences of his actions.
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My stepdad is probably about to explode in anger figuring out I don’t plan on moving back to Virginia. His parents called to see if I’d be back for Thanksgiving and I said no, but I still haven’t told them I plan on staying here. I have enough reason to, my stepdad has threatened violence on multiple family members at different times, he’s a real narcissist. I don’t feel safe living with him anymore. He sends angry threatening e-mails to his parents and my mother. It’s very hard living around an unstable person when you’re schizophrenic yourself.
I LOVE that I no longer have to watch the cable news channels he had on all the time. It feels so good to not hear that hate spewing from the television every minute of the day. Biggest improvement from moving, no more cable news. No more having to put on headphones and blast my ears with music just so I wont lose it and smash the television. However I’m realizing I can never move back into a household that has that on 24/7, I will lose it and smash things, I can’t listen to all those verbal attacks while I’m trying to focus on something on the computer.
Thanksgiving kind of isn’t happening for me this year. My mom who is getting a huge cash settlement wants to work for another family during Thanksgiving, so we’ll just skip it this year I guess. I brought up my feelings on it and she got really mad at me so I just backed off. Whatever.
Happy Holidays 
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My psychiatric care provider had Thanksgiving dinner today, but I missed it because I had to go to my volunteer job. Since Mother died in February 2018, I’ve been alone during the holidays. My sister and her family live in Maryland, and I’m in Arkansas.
My only chance at a Thanksgiving dinner is a church group serving dinner at my apartment building. It’s a low income Section 8 property. Last year a church group came.
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What did your brother do? @Ninjastar
Don’t feel like talking about it right now.
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Okay sorry for asking @Ninjastar
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No worries. I’m the one who brought it up in the first place.
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This is my first Holiday away from my kids. My sister and I aren’t celebrating Thanksgiving, no reason to. I’m sad.
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