it was delightful. do you know family is a wonderful thing to nurture and then if you’re lucky, as I am, to have some good family life you feel great.
my Mom is from Europe and has a hard time, to this day, accepting that she has a daughter with serious MI. she cannot handle it so well but she means so well. do you know what I mean? it makes me want to move out of this home with her but neither one of us wants to be alone.
judy
My mom was complaining today because she is having some bad back pain when standing. She was complaining about her life and how she had no one to rely on. She mentioned having a sick son who sleeps until 4pm everyday and doesnt keep the house clean for her. She said she was going to call cleaning poeple to come and clean the house. This makes me feel terrible because I sometimes she says she couldnt do things without me. So I picked up the vacume and started cleaning and am feeling up to it finally. When my family stresses I feel the most stressed. But most of the time we enjoy and accept each other.
When i had my “family” and i had to get my daughter to and from school, clean the house and cook and do the dishes, it was all so over whelming to me, and i had very little help, my family was NO help whatsoever, and i just had to keep pushing myself. I made sure i showered by a certain time, and this gave me the motivation to get things done. Once i got into a routine, it seemed a little easier, but i made sure i took an afternoon nap everyday, i needed it.at this point in my life though, i could not handle that kind of stress.
i am sorry to hear kittcat that you had it so hard with your family. I am very very fortunate in that respect; my family is just wonderfully helpful to me.
judy
@ifeelblessed, do you think your mom’s view of you not having a MI is more a reflection on you presenting yourself so well?
My mom says to me “you don’t really think you have [that mental illnes], now do you?” I shrug my shoulders and say, that’s what the Dr’s label it?
She means well, and has made it clear that everybody, no matter how presentable to society they appear, has problems with life, most just don’t choose to share it with others. Therefore, most people don’t realize just how common having problems really are?
hi Csummers. it is difficult for me to understand what exactly is going on with my mom’s perception of my MI.
she is a totally loving person and I am not sure what she is after with me but she is trying to improve something I am doing that I am resistant to whatever that is.
sounds like you too have a mom who loves you. we are lucky as can be.
I think my mom’s experiences as a holocaust victim during world war II has made it difficult for her to understand why I was or am a bit or very much disturbed. like, heck, I have had so much more than she had in childhood and still… maybe I don’t understand her but I think that is what is going on.
judy