A driver for the transportation company I use for doc appts wasn’t supposed to contact anyone for romance. He called, texted, etc. We never had any physical activity. He called me precious. He told me we had a future together. He also told me he loved me. Part of the time, he used his work cellphone to do it.
I found out he is married with 3 young daughters. What should I do? Does the company need to know? Should I let it drop? I have no idea. Help!
Sounds like a dick but he’s probably supporting a family. That is a tough one. Those sort of people will come unstuck eventually and it’s total rubbish he tried that on you…Still.
Sounds a bit inappropriate to me. Is the only contact you had with him in the taxi?
Thanks, hon. I guess I would want someone to have mercy on me if I was to do something wrong. That’s the only reason I haven’t done that. I had a gut feeling about him. Whatta jerk!
It’s not a taxi. It’s a healthcare transportation company. We talked and texted multiple times. Daily, for a few months.
So your only contact is in the ride to and from doc appointments, apart from him calling you?
That’s right. I’m feeling naive. Lol
Yeah he should not be doing that. I think it is actually illegal if you are at work with someone who is mentally ill to start a romantic relationship with them.
I’m still not sure about doing something or nothing. I guess I want to make sure he doesn’t have the opportunity to do this to anyone else
Sorry he did that. How do you feel about it?
Difficult. I think the mercy thing is kind. I can see the part where he is supporting a family, and welfare probably isnt that good in the USA if you lose your job?
But if i were his wife i would kind of want to know i was married to an unreliable ■■■■■■■. Also, and that would be the main argument for me…if it is a health transportation company, is he driving people with mental “vulnerabilities” often? Like - could he mislead or take advantage of someone in a vulnerable state of mind? Not that you or everybody with mh issues is vulnerable per se, but still. Some are, and id hate if he hurt them.
Difficult!
Yes, he transports people. With disabilities. Some, mental. I guess I’ll have to think about this more tomorrow. Thanks for the advice.
Ah just saw the post above mine. It is really your choice, but the “not hurting anyone else” part would probably be important to me.
Yes. I agree. What if he did this to someone who was mentally challenged? I guess I don’t want bad karma coming my way.
Yes that was my thought. But whatever you decide to do…dont feel overresponsible - in the end it is HIS bad karma, HIS choice.
Thanks. I needed to.hear that. I guess I’m important, too.
You sure are! HE hurt you. And his wife, his kids. You are not responsible. It is very kind you think about the consequences for everyone, but he put himself in trouble, he risked his job, he mislead you and perhaps others. Not you. If he loses his job, HE did that, not you. If he hurts others, same story.
Look at what you think is best, also for yourself.
You’re right. HE did this. I didn’t know he was married with 3 young daughters. I’ll call them tomorrow.
Thanks so much for the help! 
Maybe just sleep a night and decide what is best in your eyes. Either decision can be made with good intentions/conscience by you.
I’m having trouble sleeping. That’s a good idea, though. Thanks!
Hmm…good luck with the sleeping then, hope you have a good night still.