Continuing the discussion;
http://forum.schizophrenia.com/t/call-me-vain-but/60334/27I don’t think stable people with schizophrenia should be harassed for having children because they have schizophrenia.
The cheer thought of advising people not to have children it’s alarming.
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I agree, that doesn’t mean stable folks with schizophrenia shouldn’t have children. It’s my opinion, and you’re definitely not going to change it 
You know what they say…
Ignorance is curable, but…
Offending me it’s not a viable way to express your opinion. Make a clear statement if you wish.
I forgot, only you are allowed to make grossly offensive statements.
Forgive me for forgetting that double standard.
To me it is totally understandable to decide not to have children because of my schizophrenia. Since I think there is a risk for both the sz-parent’s and the child’s mental health. Any random topic in the family forum reassures me of this decision.
It’s not that people with schizophrenia shouldn’t be allowed to have children in my opinion. But advising against it - that is not alarming, nor is it harassment necessarily. The risks are real. So are the responsibilities.
You know it is sometimes said we on the forum are the one percent of the one percent? that holds at all times, not only when convenient.
I agree with you to an extent. Stable folks shouldn’t be told they shouldn’t have children, if they’re able to provide a safe and recovery oriented environment if the child is to develop schizophrenia.
In this particular case, it was.
I know.
If I was a parent I would be motivated to work the best recovery program I could. People who decide they are not fit parents are already better than many people who have children when they ponder if they should undertake the responsibility of having children. There are many normies out there with children who are horrible parents. Children are not made of fragile egg shells. They’re resilient and robust. They recover well from bad episodes. Personally, I have decided not to become a parent because I am too old. By the time my firstborn was ten I would be sixty-seven. There was this girl where I live who I think wanted me to get with her and become the parent of her baby from another guy. I was tempted. I would like to try my hand at raising children, and her choice of potential fathers for her children was not all that great. I decided not to undertake that obligation for a number of reasons.
What about people who develop post-natal depression? Should they be forced to give up their children? You know in very rare cases they try to harm their children, so it’s not worth the risk. Right?
The whole argument here is so ridiculous. You can be stable with sz, and you can go insane without it. People know within themselves if they are capable of being good parents and trying to dictate that is ignorant. People are living with this disease every single day, they don’t need to be told how it will further affect their lives.
my son has given me a total reason to live, words can’t describe the feelings I have for him. being a father has improved all area’s in my life
I’m not offended by comments concerning the difficulties and risks in having children. I know that my son is the best thing of my life. His mere existence forced me to do things I didn’t know I could do. I don’t regret having him, I’m deeply grateful. AND I wish I could have given him more, and I wish he never suffered schizophrenia. And, he’s amazing and making a life for himself. It’s not one or the other. It’s not good or bad, right or wrong, it’s all because it’s part of life. People obviously have to make their own decisions in regards to having kids. I hope that anyone in any circumstance would think clearly and seriously consider whether or not to have children.
I was lucky and lived with my folks, and didn’t work for the first five years of my son’s life. I took a parenting class and read many many parenting books. I worked hard at being present and doing right by my son, and I still made mistakes… I think it’s a tremendous responsibility that should be taken seriously by anyone.