I want to know if you think it’s reasonable to have a kid?
Responsibility. Education. Risks.
Being completely and brutally honest, what do you think?
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For you to have a kid? For myself? Or for everyone in general?
For someone who have schizophrenia
In a couple of years I will probably have a kid.
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If I can get a high enough net worth, I’ll want kids.
Stability’s pretty important, too.
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That depends so completely on the situation that it is difficult to say. If you have a good and trustworthy partner and you have been stable for a long time and you think you can give a kid a good situation, i think it can be a good idea. If not, i wouldnt think so.
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Oh and - discuss it with the doctor. I got ill after having my kid, but im not sure i would trust that meds are okay during pregnancy. I would research that well.
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I have kids. They’re the greatest thing that’s ever happened to me. I was in and out of the psych ward for a few years but my husband handled things during those times. I still think it was worth it. If you’re single it’s probably not a great idea unless your family can help during crises. Also you have to take your meds no matter what you think about your diagnosis just in case for the sake of your kids.
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Some people have kids and then get diagnosed. Fair enough.
Some people get diagnosed with schizophrenia and then decide to have kids. I think that’s unfair on the kids and the other parent and completely selfish.
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People should only have kids if they’ll be good parents and have the right amount of money and resources to provide for them.
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I think if you’re stable enough maybe a schizophrenic could make a decent parent. I think a stable schizophrenic is better than your average alcoholic parent. And we know there’s plenty of those. No parenting job is perfect. My parents are complete normies but have messed me up in a lot of other ways. Not blaming them for anything just saying we all have issues. I dunno I just think I could make a decent parent one day although I’m completely still undecided and it would depend on what the woman I met wanted and thinks.
The other day I did have the thought “I should never have kids”. But like there can be other supports in the family to help aid the raising of the kid if the sz parent had a bad day.
I think a child would actually give me a lot of strength if anything. And I’d be more capable than the fool I am now if it actually happened.
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Yes but the chances of passing on schizophrenia genes is a huge risk too.
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I was diagnosed after.
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What’s it like 10-20% chance? Maybe adoption is a better option then.
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IIRC 50% chance, I won’t risk giving someone this disease, me nor my fiancée want kids unless we adopt in the future
I was diagnosed after having kids. The doctors think the stress of the pregnancy triggered symptoms. My kids have a great life. My husband and I adore them, and we do our best to give them love, stability, and security. We take them to school, church, visits to family, and play dates. We spend lots of time outside. We play with them. We hug and kiss them.
But, my children do not have a “normal” life. We spent our savings on psychiatric treatment, and my husband missed a lot of work during times when I was ill. We live in a two bedroom apartment on the third floor. I can’t give them a house or a yard. We don’t have money to go to camp, play sports, or go on vacation. But we take lots of day trips! Their grandparents help us often, three to four days each week. Once a week they sleep at Grandma’s.
My children do not know I hallucinate. They know I go to the hospital sometimes because I am sick, but they do not know what I am sick with.
A hard part of parenting for me is when you’re having a rough time, there’s no break. My husband works long hours, sometimes 6 long days each week. Yes, grandparents help, but most often it’s you and your child/children. You need to love them, feed them, clean up after them, keep them safe, play with them, dress them, entertain them, and teach them. You need to drive them.
My doctor said wonderful things about my parenting. She said my kids are learning things I would not have been able to teach them if I weren’t diagnosed. And I work so hard to be my best. But my hardest isn’t always good enough. Sometimes they need more than I can give them. And by grace, my husband is an INCREDIBLE father!
You really have to know yourself, and you have to be realistic. You can’t have kids just because you want them. In parenting, you are called to be SELFLESS. You have to be sure you can provide what they need.
Schizophrenia doesn’t rule out the option of you becoming a parent. You need to be sure you can take care of yourself AND them.
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I think the same way
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Odds are 40% if both parents have schizophrenia, and 10% if one does.
I’ll take my chances with a normal, healthy wife.
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Did not know that, thank you
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Mother nature made me physically unable as well as being mentally unwilling to have children.