I’d really like to have kids one day but because of my mental illness. I’m afraid my kids would end up like me. Have any of you thought about this or have kids of your own?
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I have thought about it and I’ve had one although she isn’t in my care anymore. I talked to doctor’s recently and they advised against it since I have so many not only mental problems that can be passed down but physical as well. It’s a hard decision to make. Schizophrenia has 10% chance if only one parent has it and I think it jumps to 50% if both have it. I was unlucky and was part of the 10% unfortunately my daughter has 50% chance… If her biological father was telling the truth that is… He was a liar through and through so it’s hard to know.
My daughter has, but not in terms of schizophrenia. It’s the cosplay and D&D that are making her mother crazy. Mission accomplished.
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Nice! I like seeing what people come up with on cosplay and DND seems fun
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I dont want kids. I cant handle them. I know because i have 6 nephews and a niece. Their little brains are so active and i cant keep up.
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The world is over populated. That’s why there’s a pandemic.
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I never wanted children. It was like a 6th sense telling me not to have any.
Now it all makes sense. I wouldn’t be able to care for them, and there’s a huge risk they could develop schizophrenia.
I too have nieces now, and I’m exhausted after spending an hour or two with them.
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We do not get to pick our children’s lives or the way they live all we get to do is spend time with them and hope that they can forgive and maybe when they’re older they will take care of you wonderful thing about kids is the love that they hold in their personalities that makes life so wonderful it makes life worth living knowing this is possible it ain’t so bad having a little you but all of mine with themselves a conglomeration of all my relatives and some I couldn’t even stand but I love them anyway all the best I can
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I could have written that.
In my case I had a tubal ligation at age 22. Told my GYN at my first birth control appointment when I was 17 to write in my chart that I fully intend to be sterilized. Renewed the note every year, and then when I was 22 she said she would do it. Very out of the ordinary at that age, and I had to do a ton of different consents for both the doctor and hospital but I’ve never had even a second of regret.
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I have one biological child. So far, she’s 22 and has no signs of sz. But after an abusive relationship between the ages of 13 and 21, she has ptsd unfortunately. I feel so bad for her. She’s a really good person and doesn’t deserve it
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Population is on the decline actually especially in places like Japan
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I’ve never had children, never wanted any, and I’m glad that I didn’t bring someone into this world who’d have to deal with a crazy mother. I had a total hysterectomy done 3 years ago and I love the freedom that gives me.
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I’ve got five kids and they are all weird and adorable in a normal way. It’s only possible to have children with a very strong support system, and very stable mentally. Less likely for hiccups.
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I love kids, but I never had any of my own. I guess it just wasn’t in the cards for me.
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Children?
Never seriously thought of wanting my own rugrat. My nieces and nephew are enough for me.
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Just curious what your personal reason you want kids. I think everyone want kids for different reasons.
Personally I have many reasons for not wanting kids.
In my 20s I thought about adopting before SZ.
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I feel the same
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I think with a mental illness a parent has to be careful and prepared to raise children. This even goes for parents who don’t have mental illness. Parents have to have the right situation. Medical professions, Mental Health Professionals, health insurance, living arrangements, income, food, shelter, leisure activities, and an understanding of what it takes to become parents, to name a few. When a parent is taking care of a child, the parent has to make sure the children’s needs are met. This leads to a higher likelihood of success and healthier children and the family. I think, knowing that I have a mental illness, I have experience in knowing what are signs if my child is experiencing one. If I were to have a child and my child has a mental illness, I would seek help from health, medical and mental health professions.
I think it’s a human instinct to want to reproduce and carry on your blood line. I also would just like to have the experience of having a kid and raising them with a wife.
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I would like children, but it would be more for my parents than me
Feel like I have let them down not giving them grandchildren
My mother seems very attached to my dog.
That’s the best I can do for her I’m afraid
The point you raise about passing on mental illness to another human has crossed my mind
Confidence in this area is lacking for me
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