I am not able to control myself eating and also not able to get good relationships going for longer time. It is always topsy turvy. I am eating a lot because I don’t have anyone to talk to or anyone close enough to share my feelings and emotions as I like it to be shared. I am faking myself or forcing myself to get adjusted to the relationships and so I go out a lot alone and eat a lot of junk foods. I would like to have some deviations from this pattern and have some solid relationships going. Any tips and tricks?
I am there myself @Melomaniac. I eat a lot, to fill the void, the empty space,the lack of comunication. I also feel lot of anger while eating, but I can not stop. I do eat just for the sake of doing something, like it could feel the void. I feel partially comes from the meds.
As a tip, instead of eating today I decided to dring tea or watter and have a talk with coworkers. But that is not gonna work on the long run. It is just hrd for me to laught or to say a good joke.
Laughing would be te best way to make new friends and lasting relationships. But I do not feel it.
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Thanks for sharing your experience. I almost feel exactly same as you. I used to have smile problem which is my teeth was crooked it added to the illness and caused weird and wild symptoms like running away from home often, fantasising about a girl whom I spoke long time ago, thinking that whatever I do is right, etc. Now after correcting my teeth I am much stable and not having those symptoms now. But to get up from the fall is quite taxing and tiring. I counter it with going out alone and reading books and eating. Need better relationship and eating habits. But it is very tough to maintain.
When i first began developing sz, i would go out at night whilst i was isolated from friends and binge eat junk food. It gave me peace and i felt comfortable doing it.
Now ive replaced it with takeaways.
But ever since i became budget conscious, im starting to control it more.
I think holding yourself accountable will help (im not implying or saying you arent accountable, but in regards to what you eat and when you eat - you arent being accountable)
Practice some CBT. Look into your behvaiour, thoughts and feels towards what you eat, when you eat and how or why you let the temptation win
Hope this can help a little
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Yea I am trying. The problem is as I do not have anyone to vent and share feelings in real I tend to fall on the urges. My wife listens to me but our frequencies are not always the same. So I self talk a lot.
Anyhow, Thanks for the tips. I will try to adapt them and see how it goes.
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Definitely keep trying with the CBT. CBT helped me when i was younger to build confidence. Nowadays it helps me to contain my feelings.
I hope someday soon, it’ll also help me rebuild a personality instead of being shy.
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I am 25 years behind now. I am realising I wasted my life and now trying to rebuild it. It is very very hard. But I have to try. Because I was having lots of symptoms that were showing up and causing me lose jobs, relationships and what not. Need some really fool proof method to overcome.
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The only problem here that i share with you. Is that i lose my job. Either because of my own decision to give up, or because i dont like the job.
Idk the solution, but i think cbt can help. If you try to take each day one by one. And avoid thinking too much too far into future, it may help. But I’ll try to report back to you, by trying it myself too.
I dont work at the moment. But i can definitely use cbt to try to change my situation and approach to daily routines for example
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One thing that I would like to change is my thoughts about marriage life which is hampering my self-confidence and eagerness to learn and help the family. Wife is like dominating me and she has lot of qualities that are not matching with mine. I am not sure if CBT would help reshape my thinking on that. Apart from that I am fine. My work is fine and my routine is fine.
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I do eat a lot when I am affraid or stressed out.
It does not happend when I am at peace and latelly I feel stressed and affraid.
What is the stress you try to cover?
What are you affraid of?
For me, the stress comes from different symptoms, like I lost the smell sense and one eye went blur. A shaking palm. And I feel very down.
And I am affraid of neurological complications or other diseases like diabetics.
Yes I am affraid to die. So I eat compulsevly.
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Most of the stress comes from lack of knowledge and awareness about the job. And also marriage where I am not able to love my wife truly. I am trying to improve on both the aspects but whatever I do situation remains the same and I fail multiple times during the day. There is some luck running in my life now which keeps me in the hunt. If there is no luck there would have been absolute chaos in my life. I am also trying to learn some things out of what I can and see if I can move forward. Anyways, I am ok to face the music now and see whatever comes and take it as it is.
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Personally, I consume way too much sugar. I need to quit that, because if I keep on I’ll die before I’m 70.
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Me too everyday I am addicted to sweet and sugary items. I need to find a good alternative.
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