My boyfriend commented on

TW eating talk and disordered eating

My boyfriend commented on how fast I ate when we went on our trip a few weeks ago. He said back then I know how to eat or something. Then tonight(several weeks later) he brought it up again after we ate even though I intentionally ate slow because of my.anxiety. I used to have such bad social anxiety I couldn’t eat around others and now I can sometimes just inhale my food without thinking I think because of the antipsychotics but also back then I was starving because I didn’t have money for groceries . So yeah a weekend of me eating for once I’m gonna have a huge appetite.

I’m really hurt and I know I have to talk to him about it but now is not the time. He’s visiting a family member in the hospital.

First of all,

What can you cut out of your budget in order to get yourself some groceries?

Are there food pantries where you live?

Churches?

Second,

That’s a super rude comment in a new relationship.

I eat really fast too, for whatever reason.

And we were married and had a kid before he even mentioned it.

Sounds like an unnecessary way to hurt someone’s feelings.

Not very thoughtful of him.

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I got approved for disability and I’m getting my first check Dec 8. But I’m also getting paid Friday so I can actually get groceries. And I agree, this relationship is pretty deep for how long we’ve been dating because we talk so much. I haven’t seen any red flags though this is really the first thing that’s popped up . I also just had a super crappy day, lots of rude people and panic attacks . I’m out of my meds

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He should know better than to make those comments since he knows you well. I understand your pain. I also have anxiety when I eat, so I have to eat slowly and not in public. I talk to a behavioral specialist who works with eating disorders so that’s been helpful. I have five kids so I always used to eat way too fast. Eating slowly is something I’m learning. All I’m saying is you are doing the right thing. You should talk to him about his hurtful comments. He needs to edit himself.

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