I like you and what you say
but remember nobody has to do anything nice for us
even good friends, I tried getting donations to CF, nope, not one friend.
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Yep I agree but I don’t like when they act like they’re doing you a favor and then aren’t even generous with you.
It’s like you bought someone 12 drinks , all was great that night everyone had a great time.
Then you’re broke. They buy you 1 natty light and act like now they can treat you like ■■■■. Might as well not bother me this time.
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You’re not overreacting about this, you have every right to feel how you do.
Feelings of being taken advantage of are not a good feeling at all, and if your friend isn’t aware- or dosen’t care how you feel,
maybe it’s time to start spending less time with him?
To be fair, you have to let him know how you feel, and tell hom what you expect back from him in return.
Then let him decide if he can do what it takes to make your friendship better, or let you find someone that can treat you more like you deserve.
Some froends are truely clueless that they aren’t doing their share, especially if the other has always been the one to treat them.
Clue them in.
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Lol thanks for this post. Like I feel weak in this regard. Taking. It’s my biggest weakness.
I give give give. Never take. Or speak up about it.
I think you’re right he’s like clueless about it.
Like I will buy a pizza and give him half.
Then two nights later he will buy the same pizza and not offer me a slice. I took 2 without asking he didn’t say anything but he literally ate 14 of the 16 slices lol.
See when I bought the pizza two nights before I was like “take as much as u want!! Go ahead!!”
Then he doesn’t offer me anything so I’m not gonna ask for him to retribute in pizza.
I should have though but then I feel like an a hole for asking.
And if I do ask ever for anything he’s never quick to say yes. He hesitates and says yeah I guess.
Makes me feel like I’m not allowed to ask for anything.
Make sense??
Makes perfect sense.
You’re generous, and he’s stingy.
You shouldn’t have to ask.
Nor should he hesitate whrn you do ask, or give you any negative attitude either.
My ex is the most generous person I know- and I still get angry when the people he gives to- can’t even say thank you to him.
You sound a lot like him in that you give because you want to, not because you have to, but still, people shouldn’t be so stingy.
Your friend needs to know he’s not being fair, nor friendly to you.
If he’s really just stingy, just know that you don’t have to be as generous with him everytime you’re together.
You can always ‘mirror’ his behavior a few times - do to him what he does to you- so he will understand how you feel.
If he’s a friend worth having, he will change his ways.
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your comments tend to be over the top
are you okay?
I got fed up with family members feeling that they knew me more than I knew myself. That was the last that I will see of them I said. What a burden that took off of my shoulders. That was about 10 years ago.
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