All of my friends have kids. They are miserable but busy. Which is what I need.
Even my friendās sister who is 20 is pregnant
I saw something like this today in a shop and it is cute 
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Not having children was one of the best decisions I ever made. I would have been a terrible husband never mind father.
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OK Iām willing to make babies 
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Iām trying more than anything to have a kid. Money is no object but it sure counts for a lot
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If youāre looking for something to keep you busy, get a dog or a new hobby like painting or hiking or making music. Only have kids if you feel 100% ready and excited to expand your family like that. Thatās a big decision.
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Iām busy as i am but a kid would shire help to carrry on the lineage
Yeah, but you need to have the kidās best interest in mind and also make sure that youāre mentally ready to change your entire life to care for a child who will depend on you for everything.
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I got nothing but time and love so Iām ready sahd here I come
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Butā¦ What is it? 
We just went thru IVF so I hope it works
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I was married before and I had my chance to have kids.
Iām glad that we decided against having kids.
She would have taken the kids and head out of state.
It would have been too much for me.
We should help the kids that are suffering and dying around the world before making new ones.
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I think it should be everyoneās own choice to decide how they want to have kids, but that we should encourage people to adopt if they can. Itās not right to judge someone for having children the normal way.
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Sure but everyone has the right to express their opinion about otherās irresponsable choices.
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āWhat affects one directly affects all indirectly.ā
Being able to influence peopleās choices is definitely important if it might relieve potential suffering by preventing a problem from growing.
This ādonāt judge meā or itās ānot right to judgeā is in itself a judgment. Since you had to judge that it was ābadā to say ānot to judgeā.
The culture these days uses it as an excuse for selfish and irresponsible behavior.
Really, when I hear someone say, āDonāt judge me.ā all I think is āWhy? Are you afraid that you might be wrong?ā. Just wait til a child grows up and tells you what they really see and hear behind peopleās lies.
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Yes, you can judge the choices of others if you want to. And I can tell you that I think you should try to be less judgmental.
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Iām not being irresponsible, I have more than the means to take care of a child even if it means hiring someone elseā¦ maybe with a British accent !
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But this way youāll not be able to take care of other children in need.
Hey nowā¦ functional is different for everyone
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If we all went around and said everyone else should do what we think is right, and had no tolerance for opinions and choices that differed from ours, it wouldnāt be a very nice world to live in, would it? Personally, I would rather adopt. But Iām not going to tell people they are doing an immoral thing if they want to have their own, biological children. Yes, all opinions are essentially judgments, but being judgmental is different from having an opinion. Saying āwe should be less judgmentalā is obviously not a judgmental opinion.
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