I’m finding that I do get “better” as I age. I’m wiser, kinder, more understanding, less black and white thinking, more discerning, more patient, calmer. It’s kind of cool to look back over my life and see how far I’ve come. There is something so beautiful about aging. Of course I feel like I break a hip trying to get out of bed in the morning, but we’ll pretend like that’s not happening. lol. No, seriously, growing old is lovely. We gain so much insight into how we fit into this world and how we connect to others. For me it’s clarifying my priorities. How is aging effecting you?
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I think you did a good job of describing it. That’s how I feel too. But I was diagnosed at 39 so I don’t know how much of it is down to that and how much of it is due to “getting better with age”.
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I feel grateful to still be here considering all the s##t that’s happened in my life. My grace is that now sometimes I can see the big picture instead of staying wrapped up in my head worrying about everything.
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I’m not aging gracefully and my mind is slipping away
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I’m sorry @FatMama
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There are parts i like. My life has gained depth, for example. And i finally started learning social skills! Which is a real joy. I would like to have my 18 y/o body back though. And i was a lot less damaged inside as well.
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My temper has mellowed with age which is nice.
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Well maybe when I’m 45-50 or something all of a sudden I’ll begin to seem my age (in a bad way). But at 29, I seem to age pretty well 
Not saying grace isn’t typical of maturing. But we often associate old age with being non graceful. Some of you do a great job of seeming graceful and young anyways!!! Though, is what I’m saying.
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You said that very well. I fully agree with you.
I am much more at ease with myself now instead of feeling mean to myself all the time. I am finding that I am a different person in my office where I volunteer compared to 4 1/2 years ago when I was struggling to work full time and not on the right meds. I am more easeful about things now, less frazzled. More open with people and not paranoid. Like everhopeful, I was diagnosed later in life, I think that has something to do with it.
I love my grey hair too. Would never cover it!
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Weird. I was diagnosed at 39 too. I feel more clear headed now than I have done for years.
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I haven’t minded aging so far. I’m 42. I have a friend who has aged shockingly badly and who looks very old for her age. I think it would bother me more if I aged really fast like that. But maybe not. I’m not sure. People often think I’m very young compared to my real age so I guess it’s not fair for me to say aging hasn’t bothered me. I do like that I’ve learned a lot about people and I’ve changed for the better in that way.
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@Leaf, I feel like you do. When I was young, I was so emotionally turbulent, depressed, suicidal, suspicious, paranoid, hostile, violent, agitated, like a bunch of grenades going off continuously.
Now, in my old age, I’m calm, tranquil, content, even and ever so euthymic at all times. I’m no longer paranoid or psychotic. Things are smooth sailing.
As far as my looks, I was told that I was “aging very fast”. I’m told I look older than my age. But, I’ve always looked older than my age so, that’s nothing new. My hair makes me look old.
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I’m 44
I have noticed my wardrobe go all menopausal
can’t wear any thing any more
my clothes are betraying me
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My Mom has this special and I think rare type of dementia.
Along with her poor memory, she can no longer walk and has very little communication skills. She is constantly sleeping.
It was a very slow and degenerative process for her.
It’s partially hereditary and I’m not 100 percent certain but it seems like I’m showing
early signs already, and I’m very frightened.
I’d rather die than live like this.
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I’m sorry @Wave, it must be terrifying and sad
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I am getting a few here and there and look forward to going grey or silver. I love grey hair. I feel as though it’s earned.
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I enjoy my silver hairs and enjoy being over 40. A lot of maturity has come. I feel wiser.
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As an old friend said to someone -when did you start dying your hair silver?
All my peers are ageing now and showing frailties so I don’t feel as much pressure to be a perfectionist.
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I’ve found my rigjt clothes to wear. lately tackling reality I don’t know how old I. am. I feel awkwardly like a big. girl.
Life is a state of flux
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I have become a better person with age I think.
I know myself more and can even feel myself and feel like myself which I couldn’t when I was younger.
I nolonger smoke or drink alcohol etc and I was a disgusting drunk and always got myself in to trouble.
I am not psychotic now which I was before hearing voices 24/7 for years etc .
I feel better in so many ways.
Physically I have put on weight and would like to lose eight kg or so but I still have a normal bmi I think.
I am a vegan which I am very happy with.
I know who I am and where I stand more.
Just two years ago I thought one of my closest was me and we have different politics and morals but we love each other anyway and are close but I realised that’s him not me.
Physically I am not looking so hot 
and have wrinkles and a saggy mouth.
If I could afford plastic surgery I would have it but I can not afford it.
I have Botox between my eyebrows and am saving up to have a filler by my mouth to take away the saggy look .
My dr /injector actually advised me to have my mouth done because it is hanging down giving a grumpy depressing look.
I can not afford it but am trying to save up for it and am spending less on food to do so.
I wear make up every day.
I used to go with out make up and only wear makeup once a week but I used to look a lot better (despite that I was bullied for being ugly as a teen and child).
My body feels uncomfortable,twisted and tied up which I’m not thrilled about but I’m not getting my knickers in a knot about it but am doing my best and continuing my activities.
I want to improve myself inside and out.
I feel I have improved inside so to say but I want to improve my physical appearance and be more attractive.
I want to dress nice and groom well etc
I wanted to grow old naturally but then I got wrinkles and changed my mind.
The woman that raised me my mum and former stepmum have grown old naturally 
Their wrinkles do make them look a bit grumpy all the time.
My mum wears make up but my former step mum who I live with doesn’t.
My mum likes me to wear lipstick and mascara and nothing else.
She thinks I look so hard with more makeup on so she wouldn’t be happy to see how much I wear.
My former stepmum complimented me on my make up though (when I was wearing heaps).
My x boyfriend ratcheted me wear heaps .that was his favourite look.
I used to look good without makeup.
Now I look awful without it.
I don’t have friends in my old age though 
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Except for my friends in spirit I imagine I have.
But I have you guyzzz 
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