This is all new to me. I never thought I would go through this. I am almost positive that in the near future it will end in divorce. Which I am both relieved and saddened. I have just realized how manipulative and controlling the whole marriage has been. Somewhat keeping me from family. I also told her that I was okay with opening the relationship on her end, not even a month later she slept with someone else. I know that I can not be upset by this since I gave permission but it makes me sad with how quick it was. She also lays all our problems on my mental illnesses. For the past year, I have been the only one who works, cleans or helps most with the kids in online school up until the separation. The house is now a complete mess without me there. She’s threatened divorce as a way to keep me out of the hospital. And even when in the hospital would go off on me and tell me how unfair I was that I was getting help and laying stress on me. There is a lot more to it. But im just tired and worn out by all of this. And I just got out of the hospital this past Monday. I’m finally trying to focus on myself and only worrying about me. It’s so foreign but im doing better away from all the stress I was under, living with my family has helped me see a lot of things and destress. Idk what im asking for, I guess advice or kind words. I’m just trying my best to stay strong through this.
I’m so sorry. Hugs. If this will make you happier then do it. A lifetime of misery is not okay. It’s rough though. My brother is going through a traumatic divorce. I feel so bad watching him hurt. But ultimately it his giving him relief. Stay strong and keep us updated on your mental and emotional health.
Never ever opt for an open relationship. Bunch of beta bullcrap. It’s over once that option exists.
Thats what my dad said too. With all the information I’ve told him about what she’s done he thinks that it is over and nothing is salvagable.
Yeah, move on.
You probably don’t really love her anyways. Just a marriage of convenience.
Thank you very much. Staying in the relationship has caused me to go in the hospital 4 or 5 times in the past year. I just cant do it anymore. And staying with family I have started to see glimpses of my old self which is refreshing. I know it’s going to be rough. But for right now we are going to completely separate and then later on divorce when I can financially afford it.
Im happier now that I am single than when I was with a gf for 5yrs. Honestly I am glad that she left me bcz of my sz, I got rid of her and didnt know how to get rid of her before sz.
Yah, you are totally not selfish for putting your mental and emotional health first. Do what you need to do to have peace and calm.
I would say take some time for yourself and figure things out; hopefully some relaxing and healing time.
Sounds like she could have borderline like my ex wife.
My marriage became toxic.
Be glad it’s heading for divorce.
You will regain back some peace.
You need support not someone giving you a hard time for your illness
I can’t say I know what you’re going through, I’m divorced, and my view is life’s too short and unpredictable to stay unhappy or with toxic people no matter the previous commitment, you’re strong for recognizing and making a decision, many people stay in unhealthy relationships out of fear, it will get better.
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