My wife and I had another falling out. I took care of her for the past week after she had laproscopic surgery. She was in a lot of pain and weak and her family wasn’t much help. I started decompensating a bit from lack of sleep plus a very close friend died. Because of her pain all of her normal complaining and criticism of me was amped on high. I finally decided I did enough to get her back on her feet since she has been treating me worse than a butler for the past few years. She tried to get me to argue with her about money but I didn’t get hooked into that dead end.
On the positive, despite my recent drama I talked to a vocational counselor and gave her a resume. I feel very scared about trying to work but maybe a new boss will be kinder than my wife to me. I feel like my communication skills have really eroded.
It sucks that every time we had a big fight I would scramble to find somewhere to sleep, usually after driving around for hours trying to calm down.
Most divorces happen at around 13 years so I guess this will be right on schedule.
Dude. She is doing her thing, but you need to do your thing and look out for you. I know w its easy to say and harder to do but in order for you to be free you need to do so. My ex I still love, but I too had to do what I post. I live now in homeless shelter, but I am free.
She is too toxic to be around right now. I have enough money to get a hotel room nearby. I bought some food at the supermarket and enough gasoline to last the night. I just feel safest in the car right now because its still mine and I am still a bit too scared and upset to go to sleep. I called a crisis hotline and used up all 22 minutes of my allotted time. It doesn’t help to complain anyways.
To my credit I didn’t remotely reset the password on our WiFi router which would prevent her from binge watching Netflix lol
I’m glad you’re safe for the moment - sleeping in a car is an option as long as the storm isn’t hitting you. But also parking anywhere now a days for some reason attracts the police when I’ve done it. Hope you can figure out things out and how to proceed. Keep trying or take measures to separate if that is necessary.
this video kinda hit home for me although I am guilty of "but… " apologies myself and my wife is pretty kind to strangers (she waits until she knows you well to become an arse)
I guess I am scared too because this whole surgery brought back flashbacks of caring for my aunt on the night she died of ovarian cancer. I am so scared it will happen to my wife and it will be partly my fault because we didn’t have kids. So far the biopsy came back negative but so did my aunts initially.
Thanks everyone… We have pretty much worked things out. I started physical therapy for my back which was making me pretty miserable too. I bought a gel pad for our mattress so I am sleeping better. Wifey still occasionally gets cranky when she is in pain but I am learning not to let her push my buttons and she is being much more considerate and independent. We had a nice dinner with her family at an Irish pub/restaurant last night and things are more back to our normal. I think she will like the earrings I bought her for Valentines day.
