Over the years I’ve got more and more reluctant to go out. I avoid it as much as possible. The only thing I’ll regularly go for is my depot or psych appointments and even then with the depot I can be a few days/week or more late sometimes because I haven’t wanted to go out on the due date.
Does anyone else here have a problem with going out ? The excuse I’ll make to myself is “What’s the fun in walking down the high street window shopping(I have a limited range/area I’ll go that I call my comfort zone) or to sit on my own in a cafe”
i made the same mistake with my illness. and i dont feel pleasure going outside anymore. i have paranoia and social phobia also… the aps dont make miracles for me, i am seeing that already…they just calmed me down a little bit,thats all… now i try to relearn to go outside. i am proud of myself cause i went to the market with my mom today. there were a lot of people and i am doing a kind of ‘‘autogenic training’’ ( reassuring myself interiorly that its ok everything). i am fed up with all kind of psychiatrists, psychologues and therapys 
its time to go outside. i am anhedonic also,no pleasure but i remain hopefull that it will come. i try not to be angry or make violence to myself thats all.
take care
p.s. i closed myself 13 ago ,imagine 
I think it’s ok not to go out. Don’t feel guilty about it. The world shouts that you should, but you don’t need to listen to them.
But if you wants to go out more but just can’t, try to force yourself a little. I see lots of ppl sit in a cafe alone. Again the world shouts that you have to be in a relationship, but you don’t need to listen to them.
Find your own joy in going out.
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Sure I have probllems going out in public by myself, i have Agoraphobia!
I dont mind going out in public with my safe person, which is my Dad - we go places locally from time to time.
I went to the local Deli by myself the other week, it felt good doing this.
I feel uncomfortable going places by myself usually, my Anxiety can be pretty intense.
I find I can go to some places fairly easy once I get past not wanting to go out in the first place but if it’s somewhere like for example a side street off a side street off the high street(comfort zone area) then I’ll get anxious and go into avoidant mode. Also even within my comfort zone there’ll be certain places/shops I’ll be nervous about going into.
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the only time that I go out is under the cover.
I go out about 4 times a month, 1 of those is to get my meds. I normally feel like an alien trying not to be noticed. But nobody does notice me, and this always surprises me.
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I had to go out today to get that letter photocopied. I went to the newish library that I have never been to before because I thought it was too difficult for me to get to. I entered through one street then ended up exiting through another street. Luckily it brought me onto the high street.
Afterwards had some apple pie and ice cream at the cafe I go to every now and then.
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I don’t care for it much either…I never noticed anything nutty while going out with coworkers…But after my break, the mall is a nut farm of weirdo kids plus the gangsters. I really like sales racks, in-out or shop online, it eliminates some of the nutty crap. Local grocery finally had his people start to ignore the voices as this neighborhood was always after someone as something was wrong in this area so better to treat the customers to silence and have the employees ignore it all, makes the employee’s hallucinations stop and keeps the business from everyone.
I don’t care for it much either…I never noticed anything nutty while going out with coworkers…But after my break, the mall is a nut farm of weirdo kids plus the gangsters. I really like sales racks, in-out or shop online, it eliminates some of the nutty crap. Local grocery finally had his people start to ignore the voices as this neighborhood was always after someone as something was wrong in this area so better to treat the customers to silence and have the employees ignore it all, makes the employee’s hallucinations stop and keeps the business from everyone.
After trying a big church for a while, now having their confused people hunt me down to bad mouth me in a restaurant in front of their coworkers, kind of lost its luster around here. It’s a retard show…
Worse stuff goes on so I’m out of the job market here after being threatened and I know they hunted down others later who tried to hang on here and trashed 'them. I’m afraid to even be seen working…I still go to events sometimes but I’m just visiting…galleries, museum, sports or theater is all I do.
I have to hide since I want to work some. Had a bad case of voices lately after meeting more people who seem to be wrong thing, so not doing much right now anyway…Just stressed.
I go out all the time. I have no problems with interacting with people and my mental health problems because I accept them into my life and who Iam, because you cant change the things around you but you, unless your really persuasive person. Plus I know my limits and what I can handle and I don’t get that feeling of paranoia or that feeling of being attacked constantly because of those limits and values I instill in myself on a daily basis.
Have a good one!
intounknown
The outdoors makes me extremely emotional. I have wept a lot over the surreality of the outdoors, it’s overwhelming to me. I haven’t marched outside since the end of September. I was quite active in the month of September, and had at least one beautiful walk previous to that each month.
Now, however, since we’re fully into Autumn & eventually Winter, I’m really reluctant to head outside as well. I’m hoping that by Spring I will have a mood change and feel good enough to go outside. If not, I at least have dreams that’ll do the trick and offer comfort.
Yeah! whatever floats your boat. I use to be the same way everytime I would go out I felt like I was going to be attacked by someone or something so I use to avoid at the extreme or prep myself for like it was going to happen everyday. Whats wrong with showing emotion out in public people do all the time theres nothing wrong with that. Its all good though.
Have a good one!
intounknown
I’m sorry your dad’s sick (ill, krank, enfermo).
I don’t have a dad.
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Yes…I have been a recluse for a long time. The torture these days is that I’m feeling more at ease personally leaving my place but what’s going on in my head or whatever is worse…making it impossible to get out much at a time when I know if this wasn’t going on I could probably pick myself up, get out there and make some semblance of a life for myself.
I went for a good hike last week at a seaside park where I grew up walking, did me a lot of good until the mental maelstrom got the best of me, or something did. I do try to get out, lately after a hellish summer I can’t bare to look back on, I’ve well, gotten out and done things on my own I would never have done alone only to make a total fool of myself in public where normally I’d just be very quiet and keep to myself.
Oh Mistercollie, just the person I wanted to apologize to. I’m sorry about our interactions over this forum here. You know I think I just really hate this place.
I’m sorry for your loss.
Please don’t let the mood swings bother you. God- being bipolar sucks a lot more than you’d actually think it does.
People think I have it so good- haha suckers- if you do a little research you’ll see that’s entirely not the case.
Know anything about fishing mistercollie? ■■■■■■ Tuna dude… lol sorry I had to.
Dude where the hell do you find these people man? They were always YOUR friends NOT mine. I WISH TO GOD I never got sucked into your bull ■■■■ little circle. ten years ago. They’re still ■■■■■■■ with me ten years later! OK?
Where the hell did you find your “cool” friends? In the depths of hell? Just like your ex girlfriend? DUDE!!! Where did these people ■■■■■■■ come from man?
They’re YOUR friends NOT mine. OK?
I might still call the cops on Chris because he’s a ■■■■■■■ ■■■■■■■ and always was. Again, I don’t know where the hell you found him either. What the ■■■■ dude.
Wait lets just get in the back of Tuna’s Van… That sounds like a great idea.
Just get these ■■■■ heads away from me and then we’ll consider ourselves completely even. OK? I don’t want this to happen when I’m trying to get a job like a god damn normal person.
They’re NOT hippies or humanists… they’re just a bunch of criminals. Jesus!