Hey everyone, just wondering if anyone on the forum is married and is diagnosed with schizophrenia? I’m concerned about life with a partner, the increased stress and expenses, the sexual relationship, and having kids. I’d like to hear from members here who are married how’s married life going for them.
Thanks ahead
Im not married but I would love to one day and have kids. It would be very stressful but I have always wanted to live a normal life despite the fact that theres nothing “normal” about me. However, normal is different for everyone.
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Sometimes I wonder why God plagued me with schizophrenia? What sins did I do to deserve this? All of my friends are getting married and having children, and I’m siting at home getting fat and suffering symptoms and side effects. Makes you think is life fair?
I’ve been married about 6-7 years but only diagnosed for about 3ish. We had a few rough years before finding the right meds, but overall we do pretty well. He has severe anxiety, but is able to lead a pretty normal life while medicated.
As for how our life is, it’s pretty good. We don’t get out a lot, but that suits both of us just fine. We got really lucky and our personalities compliment each other really well. I was only mildly psychotic when we met and he was stubborn enough to not leave me then. Things got worse and he still stuck around. Eventually we got married, I got diagnosed and lost my job, and for the last couple years we’ve been working on trying to have a kid (I’m currently pregnant for the 10th time but keep miscarrying, hopefully this one will last).
Expenses for me aren’t increased at all. We have a shared bank account. He works and I have my disability check. I’m pretty much a typical housewife at this point, but he helps out a lot when I’m not doing well. Neither of us have a very high libido, but we cuddle a lot.
Obviously we’ve not been married all that long and there’s still a long road ahead of us, but so far things are going really well and I’m really glad I’m not going through all this alone since my family has pretty much nothing to do with me.
Happy to hear your inspiring story. I wish you all the best with your marriage
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Sometimes I wonder why God plagued me with schizophrenia? What sins did I do to deserve this? All of my friends are getting married and having children, and I’m siting at home getting fat and suffering symptoms and side effects. Makes you think is life fair?
[/quote]No, life on Earth here is not fair. Men have meddled too much with the sciences and have born a whole new spectrum of styles of suffering.
But think of this, often people are born with cancer or mentally or physically handicapped. We developed our handicap later in life. We’re part of the large army of sufferers who will do BEST in the eternal spectrum of life, for we actually had to perservere through legit hardships.
God is probably watching and will hopefully reward us with a greater good than this. Just seems like we have been abandoned.
I am married with kids. Got ill 6 years ago. Married for 14 years.
Husband does chores at home. I can barely take a shower. I’m in a non functional state atm. Hardly sleeping. Memory problems.
I’m 56, and I never married, mostly do to my own folly. I would have liked to have kids, but on the other hand I escaped a lot of worry. If I had kids and they did the same things I did when I was young I would be out of my head with fear.
I hope you get well soon. Best wishes and thoughts to you
I know some dudes that did it and now they regret it.
I own a house and live with my soon to be husband. It can be hard at time cause we’re always taking me to this doctor or that but on hard days it’s nice to be able to just lay in bed with him and talk about it. As for kids I’m not sure if I want kids now that I have schizophrenia, I don’t feel I could take the extra stress along with the fact I would hate myself if they ended up being schizophrenic as well.