Why does it terrifying me to speak at all about gaslighting, let alone speaking out about my own experiences with being gaslit by guys in relationships? Can anyone relate to this intense fear that sort of validates having experienced such terrible manipulation by others?
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My experience of the subject just makes me angry at the person doing it.
They never fooled me, but they sure fooled quite a few sad souls.
Never mind, time reveals all.
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i don’t know what gaslighting means, but it sounds bad. be safe, bud. i know you’re brave.
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That means a lot to me, thank you.
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I’m sorry you went through that. I have also gone through it in abusive relationships, and it’s horrible. It is disgusting that some people will take advantage of our illness in such a way. It was probably very traumatic for you, which might explain why you have trouble talking about it now. Have you been able to discuss it in therapy? That really helped me.
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I have definitely been in the situation of being horribly abused only to have it spun back on me and my ‘issues’. Your fears are probably well founded. I am sorry you are so afraid. Hopefully, over time, it will lessen or, better yet, you will meet someone who would never do that to you and you can feel safe.
Meeting someone who would never do that to you is great, but unfortunately the past overshadows the present, and the new mate is stuck in the middle. It’s worse for them (the new mate) if they really are nice, because it’s hard for them to understand why someone would do this-and they have no idea how deep it the cuts have been made.
It can drive them away if you can’t reign in the anger and hurt, because they can feel like it’s somehow their fault-even though nothing could be further from the truth.
Realize also that if you don’t eventually get it out of your system in a way that harms no one, especially yourself, then you are just taking over the buttwipes job and they don’t have to waste anymore time on you-your doing it for them…they go on vacation happy and you continue their work all on your own.
I’ve been gaslit before but it was more of a stalker stalked relationship. Well it was a whole bunch of people. I could tell because they did things assuming I had visual hallucinations which I don’t so I can catch them in the act doing things that don’t make sense otherwise. Word got out that I had schizophrenia because I told a lot of people when I started getting symptoms. Foolhardy. The thing is that I believe that many of the people doing it were my neighbors. Anyway it is in the past now as they seemed to have moved.
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