Friends with Benefits

Just wondering what everybody thinks of Friends with Benefits. I’ve been on my own a long time, and given up on the notion of romantic love. I briefly reconsidered, but it inevitably doesn’t work out the way you would like, for whatever reason, and it’s just not worth putting yourself out there. I’ve already decided I’m comfortable being single. It’s so much simpler

Not to be crass, but maybe what I should be looking for is just a f*** buddy. Someone to give a good sound spanking to once in awhile, and kick them to the curb LOL

-Assuming that’s what they’re looking for as well

I’ve had a few f*** buddies in the past, and it’s always fun for a few months. I know it doesn’t last, but I’m a little lonely sometimes and horny all the time so what the hell?

Thoughts?

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Finding a good friend with benefits is difficult.

Sounds like what you want is a hooker.

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I think it’s ok as long as it’s mutual.

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I’ve tried it. In my experience, feelings always develop on one side, and it screws the whole thing up. Or, at least, someone gets attached, and feelings can get hurt in some way or other. But that’s just me. I used to do lots of one night stands, had several FWB, and ultimately I don’t want sex unless there’s a deeper connection.

Maybe you could try it, and see how you feel?

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@GoldenRex that is disgusting and insulting. I would never consider a hooker, that’s b*******

Sorry.

Wasn’t trying to insult you and hookers are not disgusting they are humans.

I was just shooting you straight based on what you want.

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I disagree. I don’t find shame in what @GoldenRex said. I mean, if your neck hurts, you get a massage, right? This is just another part of the body. There was a time, where, had I been able to afford it, I would have had a regular escort on speed dial. Would have been much simpler.

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Yeah that’s a good point @Pandy . I have had a few flings myself, and they rarely end well. Maybe I’m not built for it

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That’s not a bad thing, necessarily.

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I’ve never been in a friends with benefits situation. Either a woman has been just my friend or she has wanted more. But I’ve heard more times than I can count that it rarely works out. Someone usually develops feelings and then things change.

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Very true @Headspark

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My posts about hookers always get flagged lol Anyways on Abilify I became hypersexual and wanted sex every hour, my gf wasn’t giving me enough sex as she worked full time and I was free all day. I ended up going to an erotic massage place and the masseuse told me if I pay 40$ more I can have sex with her so I said yes. I told my gf the truth and she left me.

I was ok with that but later after a few yrs of being on Abilify my sex drive kept increasing and I became addicted to hookers. Once a month wasn’t enough anymore so to feed my addiction I emptied my bank account, took money from my Visa and parents to pay hookers etc sometimes I saw two hookers in the same day, I was thinking about sex 24/7.

I told myself I have a sex addiction problem so I told my Dr that the FDA said Abilify can cause sex addiction as I read that on their website, he took me off it and my sex addiction stopped, I stopped thinking about sex 24/7. I never had sex since I stopped the Abilify in 2019. On Abilify I was masturbating 6 times a day everyday, now on 6mg Risperdal its a few times a week.

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I was once friends with a hooker. Never had sex with her. She’d post pics on MySpace and get tricks there. I honestly felt sorry for her. She was a pretty girl who ended up having drug problems. There was no real way to help her. We’d just smoke cigarettes in the patio and converse. I think she just liked having someone who would listen to her. She passed away in a vehicular accident.

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I can’t do the ■■■■ buddy thing IDK why, I guess I don’t get off on sex easily enough for it to be something that I crave

but if it is something you feel you need, and the other person too

it sounds like a mutually necessary thing

might help your mood…

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I have tried it and found it not to work well, Had my wild days, now I think I would prefer someone close, having said that I was never very good at relationships, so what do I know

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can someone clarify what is the difference between a gf and bf and friends with benefits.

i suppose the difference is that if you are friends with benefits there is no romance?? i don’t fully know if i understand it

Well, first you play chess, then have sex, end up in caffe and go home…

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yea sounds like no romance

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Maybe someone does it different…

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No emotional demands. Just sex, maybe dating even, but no expectations of a future together.

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