I laid in bed like I always do until around 2 p m every day because I can’t think of a reason to get up. I thought long and hard while laying there trying to put my finger on what it was that I really wanted. I came up with that I really didn’t think I wanted to live anymore so I called my ex and told her how I was feeling and we put our heads together and found that I am just upset that I am addicted to weed. and I’m upset about Angie gambling again. So I’ve decided to really try and stop smoking weed. Tonight I tell Angie that I want her to give up gambling too. I hope she doesn’t leave me but I am prepared for it. I have to do this so I can have hope. Please if you have any advice or comments I would really like to hear from someone.
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Sorry to hear that man. Most of the time you come off as a hopeful guy. It’s kind of shocking to see this post. Quit the weed bro, think of the negatives of the high. Or at least that’s all I have to do, works for me though. If you can quit it eventually you won’t miss it. I don’t at all and I’m around pot every day. Got faith in you man. Good luck.
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I hope you feel better soon @jukebox. You can do this - take it one step at a time
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Good luck, I think you’ve come to the right decision. Hopefully your girlfriend will be supportive. Thinking of you, you can get through this!
Go steady!
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Really sorry to hear that you went through this…I wish it could be as simple as saying stop doing weed please…But juke, you know what…We have to start at some point to accomplish something. Maybe, have someone to watch you on smoking weed or maybe remind yourself every time how dangerous it is and you have to quit it.
Do you have any group in your local area who are working on quitting drugs? Joining the group can be helpful. I guess the best approach would be when your’d be your own mentor to quit it.
Does Angie smoke weed? If not then tie up things like you’d stop weed and she’d need to quit gambling. The money you guys are spending on the stuff will be saved in a joint account and after a certain time, you guys would buy something which you’d really wanted for your house.
I hope something more useful will come up to you but whatever you decide, please decide on a positive level. Don’t be hard on yourself. Just keep your emotions under control.
Have a good weekend!
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Here you go jukebox. To get this, I I did a search for “replacing bad habits with good ones”. So you might want to do a search too. This is just one link out of many.
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@jukebox, there are resally no words to say to make it any easier, but #1, you have got to give up the weed. I know it sounds so easy to someone who has never been dependent on it on a daily basis, but it seems once you have become accustomed to it becoming a part of your daily life, it is not so easy just to walk away from. From the time I was 14 till I was in my early 20’s I smoked everyday, and the inly thing that stopped me was that I was hospitalized for a whole year. Even then I thought about it daily, but it did get easier, and once I finally had access to it, I figured I managed without it for sop long, why go back to it now. I am not going to lie and say i have not had any since then, but it was not the same as it was way back then, and I was sorry I did it. It made my psychotic, I could not function properly, and the only thing I could do to make that awful high go away was sleep. @jukebox, I am telling you, once it is out of your system, and you are past the “need” for it, you are going to feel better both mentally and physically. Hang in there, ok? You can do this if you really want it for yourself. And as far as your girlfriend goes, well it is something you have to do together.
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When I was on Haldol decoate I was totally demoralized. I laid in bed fitfteen to twenty hours a day. I lived with my mom for a while, but then l lived in an apartment, supporting myself by delivering pizza. The first thing I did when I woke up was drink a pot of coffee and take forty mini-thins. I did this for four years. I lived in an apartment that had five rooms that shared a single kitchen and bathroom. One night I got in a fight with a guy from another apartment, and it was the most pathetic fight I had ever been in. We’d fight for ten seconds, and then gasp air for twenty seconds. Now, I’m relatively straight, and fairly content.
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@jukebox sounds like you are ready to quit. I think @p2r had a great idea about joining a support group for this. You would meet some new people, plus get out of your old routine.
Angie? Can`t advise on that one, but I know you guys have had ups and downs and come through. Maybe just work on yourself right now before tackling anything else.
Much loveOO **
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well, Angie agreed she doesn’t want to gamble anymore and I have a new sense of hope. I have about 3 days of weed left and then I am going to stop buying. I haven’t told my connect yet but I plan on severing the connect too. thanks everybody for your kind advice. I don’t want to join a group to help me stop. I stopped drinking without a need for meetings and I plan on doing the same with weed.
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Best to you and Angie, jukebox, hope all goes well for you both!
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thanks csummers. I was so scared at first to wonder what was making me so upset and miserable. I was like “ah ha !!” when I finally put it together.
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@jukebox,your trying to quit weeds and I believe it is no easy job to do that and you probably try very hard too…I tried to quit masturbation a while ago,after some hard try I managed to reduce it…even now I masturbate less,but I now realize it’s okay to masturbate and I just need to not look at porn and do it only if I feel like doing it
Smoking weed is a bad habit so is pornography,but I think doing it less frequently is okay,and can release stress…too much stress can cause me psychosis or depression,I rather watch a little pornography if needed then go into stress related depression…that’s what I think
any addiction is not good. The only reason I have even a shred of hope is that I already had this type of pull and push emotions right before I stopped smoking cigarettes. I fell down at a party on Christmas evening and had five cigs, but other than that nothing since then. It was like having to start all over again when I smoked and it had been almost 80 days since the last time I had one. I know now when you stop something you should never do it again. If you are addicted to porno I suggest limiting yourself to only having sex when it is with your lover. that way you don’t have to worry about masturbation?
Addiction is not good,I watched porn maybe like once a week but I masturnste frequently when I feel like doing it…don’t be overly hard on yourself,it is not good I feel,anyway good luck on your overcoming of weed addiction
Dear Jukebox,
I think instead of having to go about it alone it is going to be much easier having angie by your side, you can support one another. And you always can come here for support, we are always here for you. Having 2 different addictions is better, because if you were fighting the same thing you would encourage each other “one last time”. Be strong, I know you can both do it. I know you can and if you ever need support and I am around, feel free to pm me, ok? Not many people here know this but when I lived on my own, I was prescribed serious amounts of pain killers, I did not know when to stop, if I were not sent away to a state hospital, it would have eventually killed me, there were numerous overdoses.How could something that feels so good, be so bad? Anyway, like I said we are all here for you.
Kitty
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