Are you a girl or a boy @Orbeezlight?
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@SkinnyMe Im straight female hun 
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I’m just curious. What are the demands and hoops that the woman has to jump through when dating a man? I never dated many men so I don’t know the answer to this question. I’m just curious.
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Generally speaking, here are some hoops women tend to have to jump through:
- Look a certain way (preferably really hot, but not so hot it’s “fake”)
- Be submissive
- Be smart, but not smarter than the guy
- Want to have kids – but no accidental pregnancies
- Be good in bed, but don’t be someone who’s been in bed with a lot of people
- Make less money than the guy, but still work at a place he considers respectable
- Have equal or less education than the guy
- Be someone “he can take home to Mama”
Weird hoops. They don’t apply to everyone, but they’re there.
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Haha omg @doing-fine-thanks I am all of these and get no interest. I thought all the hoes become wives and good girls miss out?
- Also have no personal problems thats a big no no.
-Have respectable friends
-Dont look for money, have your own, but not more than him
-Basically dont speak
-Be a bitch men secretly love bitches
-Dont be a bitch or a flirt, men like kindness in women.
Haha its so funny. A topic i have no idea
One of the most convoluted topics for me lol amoung many.
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Personally I’ve lost any desire for romantic companionship, and I’m glad, because I can’t imagine being in a relationship while I’m “ill.” So yeah, I’m happy that’s gone.
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Ah, no, not where I live.
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A lot of these don’t apply to me at all. Many of the ones that do aren’t because I find them unattractive. I don’t see women of much higher socioeconomic standing wanting me and worry that even if they did, they wouldn’t respect me.
I have no desire for a woman to agree with everything I say. I really don’t care how many men (or possibly women as well) a woman has had sex with.
Looks do matter to me. But I definitely don’t require that they be unusually good looking.
I’m not sure if any of that matters though, because, it takes two.
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unfortunately im still a chronic masturbator
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Almost %100 of people do that. Maybe if you’re doing it 5 times a day it might be an issue.
I’m still holding out hope. I want to find someone who will accept me for who I am. I think that’s not too much to ask and still possible. I need a nurturing soul.
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I don’t understand why my posts are being deleted. What’s wrong with my viewpoint because I was raised where the man is the breadwinner, head of the household and most educated member of the family. The woman should be educated and earn an income as well. Confucius values are a part of most East Asian families and may not coincide with Western values. Why can’t my perspective be respected too? There are a variety of household types where either the man or woman are the breadwinners. There is no one size fits all.
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fortunately you are.
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I like companionship but not of a romantic nature. So, I am pretty content by myself. I wouldn’t want to disappoint a significant other.
First off I should say I’m in a relationship.
However, I feel that the way humans think they have to have somebody to spend their lives with in a romantic way is totally pathetic and old fashioned.
Like really? People think they are somehow incomplete until somebody shows interest in them? Pfffft.
The only person you should try to be happy with is yourself. You are the person that will spend the rest of your life with you. It’s up to you to decide if you’ll be bitter about not having a life partner.
Not to mention, friendships are just as rewarding as relationships. There are plenty of other ways to find companionship.
As for me, I would be completely happy with not being in a relationship forever. I would have great friends who I would love just like a boyfriend. I would take myself to lunch and art museums and aquariums. I’d date myself. If I got lonely, I could always get a friend to move in I suppose.
Like, I understand the fact that some people might want sex, in which case there is nothing wrong with casual sex or temporary flings. But trying to find someone to spend the rest of your life with? Seems pretty stupid (not to mention selfish and possessive) to me.
I’m so over heteronormative ■■■■■■■■ beliefs. Nobody needs anyone. If you learn to love yourself your life can be just as satisfying and complete.
(Also I’m not saying you as in the OP, more as a general term)
Just my opinion though.
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no, i’m going to keep trying, haven’t given up just yet lol
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I’ve been thinking this too, but I decided to stop internet woman-hunting, but will be seeking women in a real life. You never know when someone local lady will turn up.
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These are very general (and negative) hoops I and maybe others have experienced. They don’t apply to everyone and I’m glad they don’t apply to you.
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These views also coincide with traditional, conservative, “old-fashioned” Western values and have gone out of style with a good part of the population and have been replaced in terms of egalitarianism or feminism. A decent-sized minority still holds these views, though. From my point of view, they’re kind of repressive (“be kind of bad . . . but not too much” “be mostly good . . . but not too much”) and I’d much rather just be myself than obey what society may or may not say is the right thing to do.
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How I was raised, the man was supposed to pay for everything because a woman offering to pay was an insult to his manhood. My current boyfriend does not share this view.
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