I don’t really wanna go into too much detail. It’s too embarrassing. But does anyone else have this problem? It is maybe the single worst thing for me, because it doesn’t go away, even when other symptoms subside it is just always there. It messes up so many aspects of my life.
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To get help from people, You might have to open up a little more. What do you mean your fixated on people? 
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I mean like, I get obsessed. Cringing now talking about it but you’re right, should give more detail.
I’m not talking necessarily about being in love with someone. I mean like having someone completely dominate your thoughts to the point where it affects your ability to function and impacts personal relationships. Also, it lasts a very long time (current fixation about two and a half years and constantly getting worse)
It is nothing to be ashamed of. It is just a symptom. Have you talked to your doctors about this? 
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My doctor is probably the only person I haven’t mentioned this to. Quite literally 
I shouldn’t laugh but I kind of know how dumb it is/sounds. Am really embarrassed about it. Like, a crush would be one thing, or even falling in love with people? But it’s more like… Like just pure obsession. It affects my coursework, my relationships… I’m scared I might even lose my fiance and feel like I can’t even do anything to stop it
Sounds like you have a lot going on. You need to be honest with your doctor and tell them. Once again, don’t be embarrassed. 
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I can relate. It’s happened to me a couple of times in my life, each lasting a few years. I think about the person, I want to be with them, I want to hear what they are thinking, I think about what they are doing and how they are spending their time. It’s not romantic.
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Am glad someone understands. Thing is, sometimes I think it is romantic? And everyone else thinks I’m in love with this person. But honestly, I think it’s more I admire them/would want to be them and am just twisting it up in my head.
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I have had this issue before. I would talk to your pdoc about it if i were you.
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It can happen to anyone, some people just hit the right nerve when you look at them. In Grade 7 I met a girl and to this day she is still in my head and always will be. I call her every so many years just to see how she’s doing 
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Yeah, I’ve been trying to work it out myself but just getting worse. Got an appointment next month so will bring it up definitely.
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I know what you mean. I have this girl who used to be my best friend for years… I hate her more than anyone. I try not to think about it too much because I get super obsessive about it and can’t stop thinking. She literally drives me crazy.
A Pdoc once told me I had bpd though, and apparently obsessively hating someone is a symptom.
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I understand completely.
Like you, I’d rather not give details,
But my obsession has been going on three years and if definitely impacts all aspects of my life,
Including my marriage.
You’re not alone in this struggle.
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Thank you. As much as it is never nice to know someone is going through the same thing, because that means they’re suffering too… Also it is a comfort.
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I think the solution to that is to make friends with lots of people, so that a relationship with one particular person doesn’t make or break you.
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Agreed. That’s just it though :I’m already in a relationship, and only see this person maybe every few months. This shouldn’t even be a thing.
Is it a messy breakup situation? I might have something that can work for that. It’s a “Tapping” technique that helps people get past emotional blocks.
Me and this person have never even been involved with each other. He’s a friend of someone close to me. We’ve maybe had a few… moments? But I don’t even know if those were real.
I have been obsessed with the same guy since college (over 20 years ago) I too don’t know if we ever actually hooked up or I imagined it. My medicine doesn’t curb my obsession at all. It doesn’t help that I think I see him or hallucinate seeing him all the time.
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OMG exactly!! I have memories I can’t trust that make me think he feels something for me and they just make the fixation so much worse. And what you say about hallucinating the person…Thats an odd relief, thought it was just me.
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