Finances again ... sorry no one to speak to about it

Hi,
Sorry to go again on this but my husband just remortgaged our place with my agreement

He pays bills, some food, contributing pretty well hugely with general everything, plus holidays
The place we live in is more mine than his, though
He intends to pay off a car he has and wants
to buy a classic car he’s obsessed with

I want him to have it, but it doesn’t stop me feeling like he’s cut my hand off.

I mean it’s probably fair, or is it?

Also you can’t take it with you

But my money is only replenishable if family die
If we divorce I believe I’d have half his pension but when he borrows money from the house, (this is not the first time,) it is my dowry.
he is spending my money on cars

I don’t want to divorce ever, but using money from the house makes me feel more powerless

Along with slight bullying he is doing this thing women fear about making me completely dependant and not confident

Maybe this is more about that

If you’re balancing who’s money is who’s, doesn’t sound healthy.

For richer or poorer etc etc

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Yes totally
I don’t know why I think like that
He does too
I don’t really get it either

I have a brother who loves the study of money and he is an accountant. Sorry, I cannot help much because I don’t really understand money in a marriage.

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