Feeling unsure of how to proceed

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So I just had a conversation with two friends and they sat me down and said we think you’re codependent and all of this stuff that was super hurtful and awful and I feel absolutely blindsided and hurt and shocked… I guess the scary thing for me is that I’m in a really vulnerable place with my depression being at an all-time high and I’m worried about how this will impact it. They attacked my character and ended the friendship.

When big things happen for you guys, what do you do to preserve yourself?

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I’m sorry you were blindsided and hurt by your friends, especially when you’re already feeling so vulnerable. Do you have someone you can talk to about it, such as a therapist? It’s sounds like you could really use some support right now.

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@Moonbeam thanks for being so kind. I have a good therapist and mentor who I’m sure will help me through it once Monday comes. It’s just the interim that’s really hard the fact that it’s a weekend. I’m just really upset and hurt.

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I can definitely understand feeling hurt and upset. Those feelings are very valid. For now, especially while those feelings are quite raw, perhaps you might focus on providing yourself with a comfortable safe environment?

There have been times in my life when I have been terribly hurt by other people. Initially, I become completely overwhelmed by feelings of hurt, grief, self-doubt, despair and even anger. I have found though, that it’s OK to curl up in a protective ball for a while and just feel the emotions. Then when I’m ready, I find that I’m better able to process the emotions, learn something from the experience, and move on.

It’s also important to remember that just because others may have harsh words for you, it doesn’t mean their words are true or correct.

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@Moonbeam thank you so much! I really appreciate your wisdom. I feel like I’ve been burned pretty bad before but never have been this attacked or hurt by what people say. I think I just need some time and space away from those friends. I just know that if I curl up into a ball then I’ll get so depressed that I will end up hospitalized again.When I isolate that’s what happens.

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I chose to live in a home (adult foster care) for that very reason. I will never have to stand alone again.

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Unfortunately friends can be the opposite sometimes.

I also found out the hard way with the ones I used to have.

I proceeded to become a part time hermit, and a loner.

Now I only really care about family, and so far they have not let me down.

I don’t like friends anymore, as it all seems very temporary and only when it suits other people.

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