my husband just told me that he has been persuing this woman for months - he left me just before christmas and didnt say why - anyway turns out hes been after this 28 year old since october
god i feel so ugly and old and so betrayed
there is no hope or prospect for me now. he was always the one who would never have done that - or so he said.
so now we are talking divorce n stuff i dont even know who you talk to about that. i dont even have money for a divorce.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. That wasn’t very kind of your husband, but it doesn’t say anything bad about you. It just means that this didn’t work out, and that’s okay.
I’m sorry your going through such a difficult time,
But there is no need for you to feel ugly.
Gorgeous women and men are cheated on all the time,
It has nothing to do with looks.
Relationships sometimes just don’t work out,
Focus on being healthy and moving forward.
i think its because his brther and his fiance said i was ugly and i feel they were conspiring against me back in november anyway and i was right because they got her out with him and he was supposed to be my carer my lover and my friend now i havent got anyone. im 49, shes 28 and hes 32 x
also theve aked him to be best man and shes chief bridesmaid!
No sense in trying to understand what others are/were thinking.
You have to take care of you.
Has he moved out?
yeh he took all the furniture and left me n the cat with only the telly, we were sleeping on th floorboards at christmas and ive only just got a fridge and a carpet and bed x
I think that maybe he’s just rude. I can’t imagine why someone would ever do that to someone. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this though. It sounds stressful.
At least he’s gone, right?
You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life.
Just focus up on you and your needs, don’t worry about him.
yeh hes gone but still gets in touch now n then. i dont know why i think he ust likes to play these games ive asked the council to move me. so they sent me a number to use to look at houses so i can live near where i used to and he wont know where it is.
That’s good, @bennroxy, change your phone number and move to a place where he can’t find you. Totally purge this guy from your life. You don’t need him anymore. He’s bad news.
thank you im so glad i can talk to all of you on here
My ex wife cheated on me with her last boyfriend.
I broke all ties with her after the divorce.
Hang in there @bennroxy.
If he’s a cheater you’re better off without him. He’ll probably end up cheating on the 28 year old in a few years.
I’m sorry this happened to you. Take his ass to court and get some alimony. He has no right to leave you with nothing. You can survive this. Get a lawyer. They will be able to guide you through his process and make sure your needs are looked after. Do you have any family or close friends who can offer emotional support right now?
I am so sorry to hear about your current situation. You are not ugly, some men are just easily tempted by sluts and young women. If he wants a divorce the let him pay for the expenses since he was the one who cheated on you. You deserve someone better, and you are beautiful.
I’m really sorry that you have to go through all of this. Please don’t be too hard on yourself. The only thing that is ugly here is his personality for what he had done to you.
@Ninjastar my family rejected me when i told them about my illness, and he knew that so i dont have anyone close at all.
I hear ya. My family ditched me
Oh, sorry. You can be your own support system, then. If you currently see a therapist, book some extra appointments. Contact a lawyer so you don’t end up with nothing in the divorce. Once the divorce goes through, you can also apply for disability. That will help you.