Today’s my mother in law 's birthday. My mother in law said she wants the family with her. Her daughters, granddaughter and husband. I’m not invited. I wasn’t invited yesterday either my partner worked so I walked to the gas station to get something to eat. I dont have any money to do that today.
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Sorry CB 
! I hope the rest of your day is better.
What is your partner’s reaction to you being left out?
she knows about yesterday but i don’t think she knows she was invited to dinner tonight
Well, she’s going to have to make a choice, isn’t she?
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doesn’t sound very respectful if you ask me 
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She’s made her choice she’s going with. The girls said they would ask if they could bring me home food by I told them no I will eat noodles.
What pisses me off the most is once my partner bought lunch for 7 people at a Mexican restaurant and my father in law drove in a separate car but if it’s their money then they aren’t willing to do that.
You mentioned on another thread that you got a birthday gift for your mother-in-law. If your mother-in-law treats you this poorly, maybe you should return the gift and get your money back.
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I gave it too her already today. My partner said if I wanted I could take her pop money and get some food from CVS Pharmacy or the gas station. But I just don’t feel hungry.
That really sucks cbbrown. I’m sorry.
thats really awful. anytime my grandpa got invited to something by his family and they didnt invite my grandma he just wouldnt even go. i feel like thats the right thing to do
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That is incredibly rude and disrespectful of them.
There are many types of abuse.
It can be a hostile attacking vibe that is clearly felt but is denied should you ask.
There is exclusion and financial abuse.
There is psychological abuse where you clearly feel left out and disliked and maybe even hated.
There can be nasty comments hinted at you but not enough to question them…
In my opinion my boyfriends family and friends have abused me .
When I first got here to a new state I knew no one and was all alone and they were so hostile and hateful and bad behaved.
It was so bad I did not think I could endure being around them and I still do not know if I can.
They started talking about his x yesterday which could be a reason as they were together a long time so his friends and family probably like n love her and want to drive me away from my man.
Trying to break us up.
His dogs are ignoring me today .
Golly knows why.
I feed them every day, tell them I love them, pat them etc
They did not say hi to me when We came home .
I told my man if that’s how they are going to behave then my boyfriend can start feeding them etc instead.
I pray every day saying thank you for my boyfriend and neigh etc
Seems no one prays thank you for having me in their life…
I am sorry your girlfriend did not stand up for you.
My partner does not seem to stick up for me but instead makes me apologise to the people who should apologise to me…
My neigh is here now but i was alone here for several months and was totally devistated at the first ya they treated me.
They look down at me, say nasty comments, think they are superior to me , try bossing me about,
Suppress me and seem to think that I am worse than the Devil …
I have been polite and kind and even been praying for them too although I do not belong to any religion.
I think they are trying to break us up and get him back with his x who they all like or another chick they approve of.
My boyfriend does not see they are doing wrong by me …
I do not fit in with his family and friends but I fit in with him.
I love his dogs but our relationship may be broken now they did not say hi to me and were bad behaved.
I feel lonely and can not turn to my man.
Maybe his mum dislikes me and they seem to hate me too.
I feel so lonely then.
I try to be a good girlfriend and partner but his darn family and friends do not treat me well enough.
For someone who was always bullied and abused and suppressed I do not want to lose who I am to “keep the peace “.
I feel people may of spread nasty rumours about me.
Probably lies.
I think you should move and tell them you will not tolerate being abused.
I think it is your partners place to tell her family to treat you better and include you in the family.
If it was your family abusing her then it would be your place.
Would you tell your parents off if they were bad to her?
I want to spend the rest of my life with my man and apologised for their wrongs …
Just to keep the peace so my boyfriend does not break up with me.
I have been assisting my man today.
Friends and family can bulliie and even old people can be bullies.
If you are all alone it can be extra difficult.
I was shocked at their behaviour which was bullying with vast vibe and hatefulness .
No shame in them…
I love him so much and pray we can get through this and that our relationship can survive his friends and family and any other obstacles.
It is difficult because you do not want your girlfriend to break up with you but you should of been invited and you were not.
You should have a support team to help you find other options so you can stop being abused.
Confrontation is usually no point cause it’s psychological …
Wishing you to hold your head high and if you can not tell them off that something will make them treat you better or that better things will come your way.
Better things might come your way.
A people that are good to you and love you and appreciate you.
It was bad of your girlfriend to not stand up for you to her family.
I also pray their are a people out there somewhere for me who can love 
me appreciate me and respect me and not boss me about ,look down at me,nasty vibes etc
I must believe their is greatness as such.
I am in a position where I do not know who to turn to or what to do.
I want to be treated better but I do not want to break up with my man.
Or he break up with me.
My dad had a friend he admired and they did things together.
The friend met a woman and married her.
She did not fit in with their group of friends but was clearly a outsider who not even with time fit in with them…
I think they bullied her and my father clearly said they dislike her and she di any fit in their group.
The man stood up for her I think and stopped hanging out with his friends as he used to.
And these people are around 70…
Go figure hey…
That bullying happens very often even to adults is rather tragic.
Adults also like to incite hatred on someone and even spread rumours that are not true.
Pictures n fake profiles etc too.
Sad.
I think I agree with this.
It is the partner who’s friends and family are abusive who should stand up for their partner and not tolerate their partner being treated badly.
If it was your family and friends that were the abusers then it would be your job to take action.
I also feel the same at work I only have one friend, I don’t socialize a lot.
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