a lot of pain in the family section i cant help feeling that mothers are mourning the death of what THEY wanted their children to be. its sad.
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We are them. The people being mourned.
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im lucky my mother has stopped trying to “fix me” for people with mental health problem everyone has an opinion about how they live their lives the best tyhing to do imo is just be there for them listen and accept them the eway they are.
They aren’t mourning what their children could have been. They are fearing what there children might become. Homeless, starving, addicted, dead.
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yeah but sometimes being homeless, atrving, addicted mean they hit bottom and want to change their lives stopping them reaching it makes them worse.
Not usually for someone with a severe mental illness! They hit rock bottom and dig deeper! And regardless, as a parent, you don’t want them anywhere near bottom, it’s terrifying!
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but thats about you not them sorry but it is.
Parents need to intervene at times. You don’t know their situations.
i do ive been there ive been homeless drunk out my mind but if i hadnt been allowed to fall over and see how shite it is i wouldnt have stopped doing what i was doing because people were helping me to kill myself.
Oh, so YOUR situation is what all of their situations look like, I see, that makes complete sense… In an alternate universe.
im sorry i must have pushefd some buttons for you im not trying to argue.
Ugh, I’m just being contrary. I was just in a very big argument, ironically with my drunk father… Sorry.
its ok we all have bad days tc
I don’t know…a lot of what I read in the family section resonates with me as very familiar. I remember reading my parents emails when I was sick and they sounded a lot like the posts in the family section…desperate and frustrated…reaching out for any ideas that may help.
I know my parents never had any ideas as to what we should be as adults…beyond the hope that we would be good people all else was up to us. Yet those emails when I was at my sickest were so similar to the posts here by other family members and loved ones. It’s because they cared and couldn’t not care and didn’t know what to do or try next.
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i can’t wait to pay the ferry man the two gold coins to take my father and mother to hades…good times.
take care
My Mom and Dad only ever really lost it on me when I would drive around high with my two youngest siblings in the car. That was when their patience and understanding was done.
My Dad was sort of… “Fine, we can’t stop you from killing yourself… but don’t take your kid siblings with you.” Or when they would find joints in my 8 year old kid sister’s room because that’s where I would hide them… stuff like this… my parents were NOT calm and patient about.
I now regret my past actions deeply and work to make amends for that ugly past.
Its really heartwarming when someone posts a positive thing in the family section. Something about how well their loved one is doing. It gives everyone hope.
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