I find myself thinking I’m making eye contact with people but I recently discovered that I’m looking AT their eyes instead of into them. Apparently I am looking at peoples eyes when they are not looking at mine. Does anyone know what i mean?
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I think I get it…
I too… I look at where eyes are… but I don’t focus and read the eyes… I just see eyes.
I don’t notice sad eyes or mad eyes. I guess a lot of expression is in the eye… I seem to miss that part at times.
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Yes. You might be anticipating a conversation or a quick attack from the person. I know that I quickly go to the mouth cuz especially if it’s a racial difference I need to read lips.
That’s kinda what I mean. Or at least I do the same thing you do.
My son taught me the slightest look into the sky showed him the rainbow same with eyes he never engages. They say with animals it’s a challenge.
yea i used to do this a lot, i would never look into anyones eyes i was scared that i might give something away i guess or that it could be awkward in someway, also i wasnt very confident, i think if you can look into someones eyes you have to be confident and fearless, my med allows me to be just that so i am able to look at people properly,
its all about body language, when you look at someone you focus on their eyes but you are still looking at body language, you got to feel your way around someone with your eyes kind of thing, if you have trouble with your feelings or emotions it will be harder for you to do this
when you look at someone the fear is that you give them the wrong look and something bad will happen, i tend to look at people who have a nice demeaner and that i know will be cool with me, certain people have a look of ‘come talk to me, i am nice’ like there whole look is like ‘i wont give you any ■■■■’ i love people like that 
I totally look people in the eye and find it offensive and disrespectful when they don’t. It’s just due respect. When someone shakes my hand they better have the heart to look into my eyes. Just a pet peeve of mine. It makes me discriminate a bit. I like when I meet other strong people. Not necessarily physically strong, I mean psychologically, physically can be a reflection of that too.
My old friends look me in the eye. I really like them, I just went to a reunion party. They know my whole story. I brought a friend who I’ve known since kindergarten, he hit it off with my old circle of friends. He’s nice and drunk probably asleep, I was the driver.
I don’t look people in the eyes, never have, even when I was a child. I’ve learned to look vaguely in the right direction to fool people, but I’m sure it’s easy for them to tell the difference.
That’s kind of an unfair policy you got there Mortimer. The fact that we don’t look you in the eye has nothing to do with intentionally disrespecting you. We don’t make eye contact for many reasons but the problem is that we can’t do it. I hope other people don’t look at it the same way you do. I always figured that when I avoid making eye contact that it. hurt me more than anyone else.
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im an eyemodel nothing sells a product like a schizophrenic staring at you
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I used to didn’t have a problem with it but there for a while i did. I couldn’t look people in the eyes without looking away when they looked at mine. I thought i had developed a inferiority complex. I still do that sometimes when i do that but now i don’t really pay attention to someones eyes. Really could care less about someones eyes. I don’t know why this is but when it comes to looking at people there’s no telling what i notice or what i focus on. Sometimes the eyes. Sometimes their mouth or teeth. Sometimes their nose.Some women in here or that reads this will probably think I’m a pig but i notice the rite things on women too; her face, and T&A. Sometimes in that order but not always. Somethings i do notice in some people about eyes & its not most people but sometimes u can see the hate in someone’s eyes or coldness. I’ve seen 2 people with hate in their eyes and one person who’s eyes looked like marbles but they wouldn’t. They were really eyes. I’ve never seen anybody else with eyes like that!
I always try to look into the eyes of whom I’m speaking to. I offer compassion to those I listen to, especially in group therapy.
Its a regional thing I think.
Where I live now is cowboy country and I think it’s normal to be offended when someone doesn’t look you in the eyes here.
I use to live in a transitory type of state where people from all over the world were just passing through sometimes and they’d bring their local practice of etiquette with them so ive seen different ideosynchrocies in social interaction.
Ihave to try and look into the camera when Im being filmed on stage
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I usually read lips, so I’m not always looking directly into the eyes when I talk to someone. I’m sure it’s disconcerting when they notice I’m not quite looking into their eyes. I usually have trouble focusing long enough anyway.
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I have always had a problem with thus. I tend to look at the eyes for only a few seconds at a time, any longer and their expression always changes to this confused/concerned look. I wonder why.
Eye contact us just too much for my brain. I can’t quite figure it out.
Three year old zombie thread.