Haven’t really done direct eye contact with anyone in years. I rarely look my husband in the eyes, i can’t with anyone really. I guage their expression by tone and mouth movements, i know it must seem strange but thats just how it is
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I know i kinda dissect my life on here , piece by piece, sorry if im too much for some
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I never do but thinking about it I have no clue where my focuss goes I just focus half feet away from that persons face. While interacting
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Yeah its really weird , i sorta think its phobia of people
Nope it just that I avoid any conflict by looking directly into the eyes.
Yeah that could be the root cause of it i guess
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So how is your day going by ? I am about to sleep 
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Im up awake here its 3.30am in the morning , i can’t sleep, tried. So im up for a chat with online friends here etc
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My first girlfriend always told me that I had an “intimidating gaze” LOL.
I guess I can’t help it. I just like to keep strong eye contact with people.
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That’s fine, no worries.
I hate eye contact. Even at the drive thru I just kinda smile and glance quickly when I get my food, then get the hell out of there.
I think a lot of people don’t enjoy eye contact to be honest.
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my stepdad used to stare me down with psycho eyes when he was screaming at me or pinning me down so i kind of don’t offer up consistent eye contact with anyone really. It feels like i’m touching them and I don’t like to be touched. I’ll do it for short periods of time if I’m in a situation that demands it, but usually no more than 10 seconds of uninterrupted eye contact unless we are actively having a staring contest.
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I’m good at making eye contact. I’ve learned when I’m talking to someone and making eye contact, to look away every few seconds then rematch their gaze. It makes people more comfortable if you do that, at least in my experience.
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the eyes are the way to the soul of a person so I always look into ppl’s eyes…
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I rarely use much eye contact with people. I like to gaze around at the environment and surrounding area, and then I look at thier eyes every so often when if it seems to be important or if im saying something that is like the main point of what im saying. For me I think it stems from a few different thing. One would be I have flat affect a lot. So im not naturally very expressive, so if I maintain eye contact completely resting ■■■■■ face it can unnerve some people. Another thing would be a big crazy older dude tried to bash me when I was a youth because he thought I was trying to intimidate him with my stare. But I wasnt at all in reality. I just didnt realise yet that I look intensely at people if I dont break eye contact. One more thing would be obviously the sza. Its a common trait of people with psychotic disorders and also autism, to not like much eye contact.
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My eye contact with strangers is not the greatest
My eye contact with everyone is non existent too. I get by without it ..
My eyes hurt or I get pain sort of if I do sustained eye constant with anyone.
It depends on how far away from a person I am. The closer I am, the more uncomfortable I become with eye contact.
That’s the way I do it. Eye contact is good, but you don’t want to stare them down. Holding a gaze for too long can be creepy.
I can see how avoiding eye contact altogether could make a person come across very meek and unconfident. I will admit I try to avoid conflict when I can, but I still make confident eye contact with people, due primarily to the kinds of jobs I’ve worked.
Whether it was working midnights at a 7-eleven in a low-income neighborhood, like I did for far too long, or teaching, like I did for a very long time, I had to show confidence. I mean, in either of those positions I would’ve gotten pushed around if I had come across as meek or afraid.
I try to make eye contact when interacting with people. Sometimes it goes well, other times I might have too much hangover from the meds, or I didn’t sleep well and the eye contact becomes less enjoyable since people can tell I’m off, but I still do it. I don’t stare though, it’s just about looking in the eyes at key moments.