And that doesn’t make the product of my efforts any better. I get delusions that I do way above average when actually, I am less productive than most. Any cures?
How do you know you are less productive then most? Maybe the quality of your efforts are above average and thus you get overall less quantity of work accomplished?
I too am plagued by perfectionism. I hold myself on a high pedestal eland always expect myself to be the best and put forth maximum effort, then i am constantly lashing myself after thinking i could have done better. My wife is regularly telling me not to be so hard on myself. I find myself doing things that people tell me is well above average but i always feel that i can do better, be better, should have known better. I expect more out of myself then i expect from others. I guess im not being fair to myself but i just cant help it.
My wife says its because nothing is ever good enough for my parents and it gave me a complex that i still am trying to win their approval. If i got all A’s in school it was “why didn’t you get A+'s?”, if i hit a homerun it was “why didn’t you hit two?”. Maybe shes right, i may be too hard on myself because of it, now that i write it out on here i can see it. But whats wrong with trying to be the best and holding yourself to higher a standard? Its made me who i am today.
Enjoy the delusion, I suppose. Either that or accept that you are less productive than most people. I was a personal perfectionist before I became mentally ill and now I don’t care. I manage to get through school, I never go to the gym anymore, I rarely do my hair. I get OK grades. I used to try a LOT harder. I have no cures 
Learn to do things just for the fun of it.
How?
Have a child teach you,
but first, send the judge on vacation.
Then, treat things like horseshoes and hand grenades…where close is good enough.
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I think the key word here is “driven” because that is hard on the health and causes one to really not appreciate the results, whether it be how a job is done or the money one gets for it.
Actually, I have grown out of the idea that I was doing exceptionally well and with the security of the home I’m in now, I can realize that I really am not up to average. It’s ok to get C’s.
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