I talked to a psychologist who said (nearly) : " I know people who have a similar profile to yours."
She was talking about people who put pressure on themselves, who are perfectionists, who are afraid to fail, who fail (or think they fail) and who have low self-esteem.
Are you one of those kinds of people and if so, how did you evolve?
Have you found a solution to your problems ?
My husband puts a ton of stress on himself and he hasn’t found relief.
I put pressure on myself in certain areas in my life, but lately I’ve felt like just giving up
I used to be a perfectionist. But after being in the chronic illness community of Tumblr, I learned to be more focused on self care instead of pressuring myself to be able-minded & able-bodied.
Now, I accept that I’m disabled and that I have limits. But I do still try to push myself, to a degree, in order to get stuff done. But I try to keep in mind that I’m disabled and I need to be kind to myself. I can’t overdo it.
I’m growing out of it little by little. I think being a drug addict and having to admit that something was bigger than me and quitting so ungracefully taught me a lot about not having to perfect. I think I just have to be barely good enough to get through the day not using.
Addiction is very humbling, isn’t it? I was a high functioning alcoholic before my accident, then I went down like a torpedo.
Just reading your post gave me a slightly better perspective. Thanks
I like to put pressure on myself, although I think I perform better when I forget what I’m aiming for.
I think if it weren’t the voices saying I will fail so many times, I would have perform better that’s for sure.
My aim for perfection started in school whenever I had bad grades, I saw them as challenge to overcome the adversities. That made me learn that sometimes I underestimate what lies in front of me, and at the beginning I might think the task is easier than it actually is.
Regarding the solution suggestion, what I try to do is prepare myself for the worst and with that mindset do the best I can.
I did when I was a kid… It’s not so bad anymore… My mom would tell me everyday that nothing is perfect and that there is beauty in imperfections
I sometimes put pressure on myself but I try to remind myself to fail hard and fail fast. Then I’ll get better 
Yeah, i still always feel enormous pressure to accomplish things I couldnt even do if my mind worked perfect now.
I know my limits.
I’ll preface my comment by saying that back when I was in High School, you had to take 6 OAC (Ontario Academic Credits) courses (Think of it as a grade 13) and based on how well you did (Your grades) you would either be accepted or rejected by the Universities you applied too.
I put a lot of pressure on myself to do well in my OAC year so I would get accepted into the University I wanted to go to. I graduated as an Ontario Scholar with an A average and got into University but I became ill in University and my grades tanked, then I had to drop out so I never got my degree. I’ve been disappointment in myself because of that, and sometimes I feel like a failure. The only thing that makes me feel a little better is telling myself it wasn’t my fault that I developed schizophrenia.
I don’t put pressure on myself like that anymore, I’ve learned my limits with this disorder and am fairly content. I still push myself a little to do things I want to do sometimes, and there are things I wish were different but I don’t let them get me down anymore, that doesn’t accomplish anything.
I set the bar super low for myself so that I’m pleasantly surprised when I achieve more than what I’d hoped.
im a perfectionist but i lack the motivation to really do anything at the moment, things werent always like this but ive hit a rough patch, also have a somewhat low self esteem and fear failure to the point that if i cant succeed right away i give up
I push myself but only to the amount that I think I’m potentially capable of.
I understand failure is part of life but if there’s something I know I’m going to fail at I won’t bother trying
I think the solution is to stop caring what others think. And it also helps to stop measuring and comparing to others. Being alone for so long has helped me in this. I’m actually worried that if I make friends again, I’ll run into more judgy people. Even when I felt that I had accepted my illness, there were people around me who’d make rude comments.
There were people who’d ask, “Why can’t you just ignore the voices?” Well, if that piece of advice actually worked, there would be far less people on APs. 
Many people don’t even bother to read about what schizophrenia is. It sort of becomes my job to educate them, but they always have such inappropriate questions such as, “Do the voices tell you to hurt other people.” Seriously, have some people completely lost all common sense? 
And it doesn’t help that we live in a society where there is high value placed on people who are the most productive.
Ooooh that makes me mad.
I was watching a documentary about a child who had schizophrenia, and she was yelling, and her parents said “okay, we’ll leave you alone,” and she screamed back, “I’m never alone!”
It’s so much more than just something you can tune out. It’s maddening and it strips you of any feelings of true privacy when your deepest most personal information is shat out to you constantly via the voices.
One of my mantras when I was still a bit psychotic was “you are alone, nobody can see you.” I’d just repeat that until I felt safe again.
Sometimes the pressure gets pretty bad but then poof! I let er rip and the pressures gone 
POOF
Adopting a growth mindset has helped. That means that it’s okay to fail right now because I can still succeed later, especially if I learn from now and apply it to later. Helps me catastrophize less.
Use your perfectionism and drive to perform well as a strength. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to fail. Improve your self-esteem by reminding yourself you don’t have to accomplish everything you want to in order to like yourself and be proud of what you can do.
There’s a lot more to say but those things have all helped me a lot.
lol ignore that heart attack! refuse it and itll go away 
