I can’t make my mind up. I reckon it’s true when you’re not genuine.
Edit. This is not about my interactions with forum. I saw a Facebook post
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I think wen some1 is not genuine, ppl can see thru it.
And it invites indifference.
Sometimes I’m a ppl pleaser and that invites distress on myself and ppl sense it and use it to abuse me.
Especially at work it’s y I’m struggling with the whole job ting.
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I tend to be very polite and friendly. I’ve had it used against me before, but more often than not, people appreciate it.
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Yeah, indifference is a good way to describe it tbh
But I do also feel people take advantage of friendliness
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I think a lot of friendly ppl get used for their kindness myself included.
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People confuse me a lot. There’s both good and bad and then there’s being a good person doing bad or being a bad person doing good - if that makes sense (those who take advantage of us I mean)
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I think there are Good guys and Losers in this world.
There is usually more Losers at anyone time hahahah,
Jk, its variable. (my armchair Philosophy) 
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Lol resilient there’s defo a mix of humanity. Life is like a box of chocolate u never know until u know
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yep but everyone has a go at me for having a favourite one, i like caramel man and a truffle is nice too, keep them turkish delights away from me though and orange centres haha
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we have similar taste preferences loool
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I get upset when people are mean to me bc i don’t think i deserve that kind of treatment, its hard to deal with sometimes and then i also get these vibes that bother me too, sometimes you just get bad vibes.
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I think the problem with being too nice isn’t the being nice part, but not having any boundaries. A lot of overly friendly “nice” people get walked over because we don’t say no or that something isn’t right. I’m bad for this, and am working on setting proper boundaries and learning to stand up for those boundaries.
Being nice and friendly isn’t a problem, so long as you can also be firm and stand up for yourself.
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Being nice and friendly makes us happy. We just need to set clear boundaries and learn to say no to anything that’s inappropriate.
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In my experience, the problem it isn’t being too nice. It is failing to hold yourself as a priority. I’ve been on both sides of this. When I meet someone who agrees with all my suggestions, freely offers things that would be major inconveniences for them, and never expresses discomfort over anything, I feel nervous. I feel like I need to guess their preferences before making any invitations/suggestions. I never know if they actually want to be around me, or if they just suck at saying no. It makes me avoid them. I am too afraid of accidentally upsetting them because they give me zero indication where their boundaries are.
When I act this way towards others, I scare off the other people who care about my preferences and comfort. I am only left with people who enjoy being given things and having favors done for them. I end up being treated badly, because I am actively repelling all the people who care.
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Yes i agree. And schizophrenics schizoaffective or any mental illness condition can make you more susceptible to bullying or being taken advantage of
I think personally this might be because of lots of reasons and i have a few of them like low self esteem, paranoia, social anxiety awkwardness etc
Includes autism and learning disabilities
Thats why employers and colleges and carers should make allowances
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I am genuinely nice but I get walked all over , disrespected , excluded, bully vibed etc
Waitresses don’t say hello and don’t want to serve me.
I get charged more than everyone else for a lot of things.
I can’t defend myself and am kinda all alone surrounded by “them”.
Someone may have lied about me and incited hate and done everything to make sure I have no friends or allies or help.
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