My fiance has it. And we’ve had a pretty rocky past. Lots of breaking up and getting back. But we’ve been pretty strong for 6 months or so. She thinks it all due to my meds but I think I have a lot more insight to what was happening. Deep down I didnt feel I deserved her love and some of her bpd traits overwhelmed me. I’m working hard at it.
But like in my other said, I recently went off my meds. When I told her she freaked out. Had panic attacks, told me I didnt care or love her, and now shes checking herself in the hospital. Shes convinced I will leave again.
My girl and I have a rocky past too. Lots of breaking up and getting back together again over our 15 year relationship. And we’re both responsible for it. I’m the one diagnosed with bpd.
I used to have a partner with bpd. It’s a lot of work but a relationship can be successful. You just have to do your best to be understanding. Also its really not my place but please take your meds or find better ones.
My best friend has BPD. I could see her doing this out of fear of abandonment. Just stay calm to ride her highs and lows. BPD comes with black and white thinking so people with it think things are all good or all bad. That’s why she got so upset she needs the hospital. Right now to her it’s all bad. Hopefully she can get the help she needs as BPD is actually treatable to the point that people no longer have it.
I have BPD. I stay out of relationships so that I don’t have to deal with the abandonment issues, but every single day I am constantly wondering whether people are criticizing or rejecting me in little conversations that shouldn’t matter. It makes me weary and I get to the point I don’t want to keep trying and working in therapy. That’s when I start getting self-destructive and begin sabotaging things.