Ok so im talking to this guy and i told him about my illness and he didnt mind. He still wanted to talk to me. But then i asked him if he hears me on tv or the radio? Lol and if i started talking back to the tv or radio would it scare him. He said it wouldnt scare him. But he said that when i start talking about the crazy stuff he has to look at my pictures to calm him down. Lol thats cute. What are you guys experiences?
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I want to start dating soon, nervous as heck about it though. Think I am going to put my self up on match.com . I donāt think I am going to tell them about my illness straight away, in my experience people donāt always act appropriately when you tell people you have just met. 
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I donāt advise what I did but I told mine before I met him. Vast majority didnāt take well to it so I felt the need to get it out of the way.
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I met my boyfriend through a group provided by my mental health team. (Walking group) so he already knew I had a diagnosis of some kind when we first met.
I do discuss it every now and then and he is accepting of it. However he has a condition too (aspergers) and I think we have some mutual ground. Not everyone is as accepting. Some people are very judgmental.
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I usually donāt honestly, if they ask why Iām taking meds Iāll just be like āfor anxietyā. I would only tell him the truth once the relationship is serious
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I didnāt start dating until I had been stable for some time. It doesnāt seem like you are able to handle your own issues well, donāt think you need the additional pressures that come with dating right now.
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I usually tell people in bits and pieces. I test the waters first with some smaller stuff. Or i hint from the start that i have some life experiences that might be shocking to them and check their responses.
Then by date 3 or so i tell more. I try to connect to what people can understand at firstā¦e.g. āi had unrealistic fearā is understandable for people, they can empathize. The word schizophrenia or stories about what exactly i believed are so outside of their normal experience that they cant empathize and get afraid, imho. I never use the word sz. It has too much stigma attached.
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Honestly if a person likes me then he will like me for me. I actually dont put too much pressure on dating anyway. I just go with the flow. Im not afraid to be alone so if it doesnt work oh well. I dont let dating become a problem because its not that serious to me. But everything is going well so far.
This is a real barrier for me. I want to date but I worry that someone I meet will reject me because of my baggage.
Weāre all made out to be psychos by the media and Schizophrenia is highly stigmatised that not even mental health campaigners have the balls to discuss it.
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i defo would not tell some one iam dating about my SZ till at least 6 months and then i would just say i have āEmotional Issuesā that why i take meds.
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Well we are human. If a person likes you they will like you for you flaws and all. And its all about how you look at it. If you look at your situation as baggage then your partner will. If you look at it as simply a flaw then they will as well. We are all human beings and deserve love. Remember that.
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Iāve been telling people too soon. Iāve received a lot of stigma because Iāve been so open.
Iām more cautious about telling people now.
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