That’s where children or kids come in because those bundles of joy keep married couples together.
I was married for nine and a half years over 34 years ago. Every year of my marriage was pure hell. Why on earth would I want to go through that again? I could NEVER trust any man ever again. I’m divorced 34 years now and loving every moment these days.
I really don’t think children keep people in marriages. Go to a family court room and you will see how the previous loving couples absolutely hate and despise each other.
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marriage is too much hassle I don’t see the point. if I love someone I will just love them I don’t need a ring on my finger and a wedding for that lol. and in case there is a divorce that is a lot of hassle too. plus I don’t want kids.
my life is going to be nice and simple 
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I tend to agree with @anon5716216
Marriage is harder on schizophrenic males.
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Yeah, well there are many types of different families out there. I know of some divorce couples too and yes, I agree they absolutely hate each other. But you’ve got to look at those married couples who stay together with happy kids.
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I hate the thought of being cheated on. That and alimony and the costs associated with kids and marriage. I have no friends so a wedding would be out of the question.
I live off of less than 500 a month. I’m not healthy.
If I had a million or so dollars in the bank, sure I’d have kids and a wife.
I wouldn’t like the woman being the sole breadwinner in the family. I would be ashamed.
Sometimes, I feel important and special because of who I am or what I am, but it’s probably just a fantasy of mine.
The divorce rate in Canada is 38%. Since you say majority of schizophrenic males don’t marry. That is a lot of normal people marrying and the rate is still 38%. I would say getting married and staying married is difficult even for normal couples.
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It is but its still much more difficult for male SZs especially if they have severe negative and cognitive symptoms like me.
I guess marriage really is hard work for you and your spouse. Ideally married couples try to keep it together or else why did couples get married in the first place? Anyways, we shouldn’t talk about this subject since we are not married with a wife. No first hand experience to reference to.
I cannot even take care of myself.
I have a hard time showering every 7-10 days.
How do you want me to find a wife with my severe negative symptoms and no income?
There is no wife on earth that will be as good as my mom. I don’t need sex.
I was married. Now divorced. Would never get married again.
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I have no desire to get married or even enough desire to be in a relationship. Being an asexual I don’t see attraction. I can see beauty in people but I’ve never had a jaw dropping moment. I’m just wired different. Took my grandparents a while to get over that I will never marry. But I am still interested in relationships with my family members and a pretty close friend I have. Those things are enough for me
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No, I do not believe in marriage
After taking my medicine I never was interested in women like I was before I was medicated. With the way I am now I could never be a good husband. I don’t have a job so that’s a huge turn off for a lot of women and I don’t see myself getting one anytime soon. I want to feel love again. I want to heal.
Married for 12 years. Happy. Five kids. It can be done if you want. My hubby does not have a mental illness.
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Aziz, no offence but I think you lost the will to fight on. You say you have negative and cognitive symptoms but you are actively posting on here. Is this someone who truly has no motivation to do anything? I don’t think so. You clearly think about your illness a lot but you do nothing about it. You claim you have cognitive symptoms. I see you posting about medicine and research reports that I cannot understand. Clearly your cognitive abilities in some respects are above mine. I saw your post on learned helplessness. What you experience now is “learned helplessness”. You feel hopeless and there is destined to be no hope for someone with schizophrenia. Look to what you do here and tell me whether you truly have negative or cognitive symptoms. If you have trouble with negative symptoms, force yourself to exercise. Force yourself to bath. I told a veteran with schizoaffective disorder this. Force yourself to actually do something and eventually the motivation will come.
Not true. Schizophrenics who abuse drugs are more prone to violence. I only said the stigma doesn’t work in your favor. Plenty of guys here are married and/or in long term committed relationships. For example, @anon17132524 and @shutterbug. Misogyny and sexism are real problems in the world, but it doesn’t mean you can’t get married
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No, I don’t think I will marry again. I didn’t thrive while I was married the first time. I think I do better on my own. Although I do miss snuggles. But you don’t have to get married to get snuggles.
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Exactly, all I can do is post online not in real life!