I know it sounds crazy but I was curious what others thought. I have been celibate for 11 years and would like to have life companion. For me (and I’m sure many of you) lifes routine is so important. I barley get by keeping the house clean, dinner, errands and exercise/hygiene. I must lay down 50+ times a day. But as my mom just pointed out me: she is not going to be here forever. Am I crazy for wanting and trying to get a normal woman’s life? Or man for that matter?
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It is completely attainable, you just gotta meet the right person. You seem pretty sane. Perhaps a little paranoid, but you can work on that. The sky is the limit.
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My parent said that they couldn’t help or accompany me forever,I need to be independant and also if they leave me someday I must find a companion…to be honest I don’t know if I will ever get married but I hope I will at least find a companion to live my life with so that we can depend on each other when we grow old
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@BryanAshley I thought I had but now after a year an him traveling so far he is not texting. I thought a mentally ill man I liked would be perfect but he goes so quite but he did tell me he gets paranoid and goes under sometimes.
I don’t think it’s unrealistic at all… there are some members on here who are married and have kids… they keep an eye on their health and seem like they are doing well.
For me it was hard to get over the social anxiety and trust people, but once I got that under control… I did find a friend.
I think you have every right to get out and make friends and open yourself up to companionship.
I am always hopeful for love.
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My father wants me to find a wife and thinks it would be nice for me to have a companion. Even though he sees me sleeping in until 4:30 pm wenever I can. My mom just wants me to be happy and having two houses and three cars and a dog and myself to take care of is plenty to occupy my life. My father thinks a wife would help.
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@Gtx1990 Good for your parents for being forthright. I believe in having faith
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@SurprisedJ I know. Somebody that understands
No the desire to get a husband is not crazy at all. It is natural. It’s difficult to achieve but its been done before.
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@anon40326163 you have it pretty good for somebody with a mental illness.
I am 44 and going through my midlife crises along with mental illness. I dreamed about marriage and children my whole life and now am realizing I might not have either. I saw a promising show on tv which said poeples happiness increased after 45 into their70s and 80s, because they gain wisdom on life after 45 which they did not have.
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@Dude1 Well I never thought I’d find somebody (I think I did) at 33 as of tonight. That’s for sure.
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I ran into sombody who asked me if I was single. I said yes. He told me he had a daughter. I asked is she looking for poeple to date or somthing and he told me that he wanted grandchildren. This overstressed me and set me way back with my mental illness. I thought poeple let poeple be and were not so aggressive. He kept pushing me to date his daughter or get her pregnant or somthing. When I finally saw her he told her I was asking about her which I wasnt. I was not really attracted to her. And plus that he told me his son just divorced his wife becuase she was sleeping all day and not doing anything and maybe was on drugs.
@Dude1 The higher up you go the smaller the circles you get.
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Yeah I did not think poeple could be so controlling. Not letting poeple be, worrying suggesting wanting needing telling poeple what poeple need.
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And I just told him today was me birthday, he said happy birthday, I told him 33 and he never got back to me. My brain is the size of a pea.
No, I don’t think you’re crazy to want that. There are people on this site who are sza and married. Talk to some of them. You also need to prepare yourself for when your mother is gone. Do you get disability? Do you have any other kind of income? Try to stay stable on your med’s and these things will work themselves out.
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I wish I could find someone. Im so lonely. I always thought growing up That I would have a wife, a good job, kids, and a nice house to live in. Im 38 years old and I dont have any of it. Well my parents house is somewhat nice but its not mine. I dont know what to do to meet someone either…I just sit at home all day on the computer. I wish you all luck in finding someone…ive almost given up hope for myself.
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Yes I get social security disability. My therapist is having me become me own payee soon.
I have almost given up hope too. The people I know that find somebody go on like a million dates.
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