To tell a girl you want to kiss her if you haven’t even been on a date yet? If you’re still just talking? I think that’s a little forward don’t you? Or am I being a prude?
Doesn’t bother me. He put his cards on the table. Laying out his attraction and part of what he’s after.
If it’s the only thing he’s after then it’s a problem to me. If he focuses just on that
PS: but I may be a little forward. Lol
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lol, a llama with a mission
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Just a llama who never liked games. I want them to know I’m attracted, that I find them desirable. I want them to be open with attraction too. Makes it easier, and a better foundation than playing games. Plus the boldness sometimes works in my favor.
What’s important though now that I’m thinking more on it is this “How did it make you feel?”
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I feel like it’s cheating on my husband lol I’m not very good at being single I guess
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having clear intentions, but it doesn’t work for everyone. If someone told me they wanted to kiss me I would probably run away in fear and never speak to them again. I needed to be slowly eased into the concept of affection. Maybe you would just be better matched with someone who moves more slowly. Maybe you can tell him ahead of time that you’re just starting out with dating, and not ready for that kind of talk yet.
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Yea, I think you are right about that. Not everybody goes the same speed. I just became single. He’s been single awhile. That makes a difference I think. I mean jeeze, what’s the rush? I feel really anxious right now and it’s not helping. Maybe it’s too soon to date at all. Which is too bad, because this guy is a nice guy. But oh well.
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Maybe just tell him how you’re feeling and ask if you can go very slow. Maybe he would be fine with that. I think a lot of guys feel pressured to act more confident than they feel, because they have been told chicks dig confidence.
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yea that could be true. It couldn’t hurt to bring it up. I mean it is my ship to steer.
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It is! And @Ninjastar brings up a great point as usual.
My speed hasn’t always worked out. And it normally ended with shallow passion.
Go at your speed, always. Don’t feel uncomfortable. You are still fresh on the scene, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to slow down.
If it still felt like I was cheating on an ex, I’d take that as a sign I wasn’t ready…and probably disregarded that safe advice and hooked up with the first person I could, just out of “Amore Vita” 
but I’m a madman.
You’re in a delicate time. Be kind to yourself, Open and honest. And don’t be afraid to speak up for your needs. If he needs to slow down, then you owe it to yourself to tell him, it’s self care not selfishness.
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Thank you @Ooorgle and @Ninjastar
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solidarity
Any time I can.
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