I am still really hurt by my bad brother’s rant on my life the other day still…I need to forgive him and move on. I forgive everyone who’s wronged me almost immediately after I’m hurt or angry at someone. It eats at me otherwise…
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Maybe your brother just gets upset because he sees a lot of talent and potential in you.
But for me I forgive people easily too. I don’t like holding grudges.
But trusting people again is a whole other ballpark.
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deep down I think he is trying to help me but has no idea what it’s like to be me. I see the potential there too, but I am handicapped by my anxiety. He thinks I’m throwing my life away. anyways, I forgive him…he’s just a kid really…even though he’s almost 40.
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I used to but not anymore.
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I just feel like defending myself a bit…I am an artist but painting is very hard on me and I just don’t have the will to make the art walk here in town because they require fifteen to twenty paintings to have an exhibit in the art walk. that’s too many for me to do. I play guitar and sing…I wanted to do some singing and playing for the art walk too, but my anxiety got hold of me so I didn’t do it…am I being a sissy?
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I held a grudge against my brother all my life and it contributed to my demise. I resented so many people it’s incredible. I think it’s just gone away. Taking responsibility for your choices in life made me not resent people so much. Not judging people is important. It can be very bad for you to judge someone I found.
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Yea i heard a proverb that was something like
Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die
Its poison so its best to let arguments go
The way i see it is… to forgive is to “fore give” or to “give” your love “before” they have adequatly made it up to you.
For to hold on to resentment is to re- sentiment or re visit those emotions again and again which is what i think anger is. You have to come to some sort of terms with it mentally and seek to understand their point of view and then say… enough… i am satisfied and understand why they may have done it. I will no longer bring this idea to mind. And stop the habit of resenting this memory. Distractions work well for this… aka just getting along with your life…but understanding their point of view is the crucial and healing part…because the truth of what their perspective was heals our hurt.
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I have trouble forgiving those who have transgressed against me for a long-time. For example, a 4-week suspension will definitely make me remember who transgressed against me for a violation of a forum rule thats deserved a shorter suspension.
4-weeks is a long time to buildup that anger.
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It’s my philosophy that if somebody wants me to forgive them for something they should first admit that they are doing it, and then stop doing it. Until that happens forgiveness is out of the question.
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As a friend, yes you are being a sissy. Go out there and play for people. if a tree falls in the woods does it make a sound? You are more likely to regret the things you didn’t do. there is no reason to be afraid of sharing yourself. Your fear of rejection is stopping you from living your best life.
If i forgive or don’t forgive, it doesn’t change anything in my life. The damage is done.
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I forgive easily but when the person is not sorry and always treats you badly then I want nothing to do with them.
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Easier to forgive others than myself.
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I can forgive but if i have an option to drop a person i will do that also and move on.
Family matters are tougher
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I forgive easily and quickly. But I had to learn the hard way that I can forgive someone but still cut them out of my life, not letting them abuse me anymore.
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I’ve forgiven people for a lot of things but I’ll never forgive the person who put slime in my soda.
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