Do you have children

Green6 I hope you don’t mind me asking this but my partner is Sz and I have 3 girls, I worry daily how it will effect them. My eldest gets upset by it, how will they be in 10 years or so. I wonder what the Sz will be like in another 10-20 years and it’s scary not knowing the answer. What’s going to happen to us. I know you can’t answer for me but I hope you can share how some of these things effected your family. As much as I’m looking for comfort I need warts and all Honesty as I live everyday wondering how much more I can cope with. If I’m going through that what are my kids going through. My eldest wants me to leave as she is scared she’s going to find him dead one day. The little ones just love him and are not old enough to be aware but will be oneday. I also feel guilty often that he is not their natural father and I’m putting them through this. I feel like I’m been selfish for my own love and not them. I hope you can shed some light on this for me as you have already been there. Thank you

I also worry if I ever had kids they’d develop schizophrenia, or other mental illness as it seems to run in my moms family and so does other things like diabetes (which thankfully I don’t have right now) and heart problems. I hate to have a child and know he or she has a really good chance of developing something along those lines.

silwhSzm, I can talk a bit about my perception of SZ and its impact on family. If your partner gets treated for his SZ, his condition will be stable which means he will be on medication the rest of his life and most possibly don’t need to go to hospital again. He might have small wobble and needs an increase in the dose of med. But he will be sober. He will also suffer from the side effects of the antipsychotics such as weight gain, sedation, depression and cognitive impairment. If he doesn’t change job, he might be able to keep it, doing what he used to do. But if his job is highly demanding, he would probably can’t cope with the stress and have to resign it. Certainly he will be less energetic, less spiritually strong and less physically sexual. So there will be a big impact on the relationship between you and him. As he will be not delusional or paranoid under medication, your girls will not be significantly affected by his SZ. I would say his SZ is a big challenge to your faith and ability.

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I have a daughter she is normal and is 21.

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I haven’t had children,I don’t know if I can teach one and bring one up,I need to be more mature in the first place,people do grow

Green6 and Saphire, thank you for taking the time to answer, I appreciate all input, views and experiences. It is so helpful for me atm. I also have a disorder Which I have had under control with good management for years now. (borderline personality disorder) with all the stress and worry, my kids and the changes in my partner, I have been having to work on management extra hard… These forums have helped so much.

I would love kids, but first I need to leave my house more often, leave my head, socialise, find a partner and feel comfortable enough to make love. I also need to be able to cope off meds to handle the pregnancy, so far I have failed every time trying to come off meds, so how long that will take I do not know.

I know I wouldn’t be able to adopt, there’s no way they’d let me, I wouldn’t be confident enough getting through the endless interviews. I’d also fear them getting schizophrenia being biological as I’m the first in my family to have schiz or any form of psychosis. You see to my family who don’t know much about me people are either having or talking about babies and partners they ask me ‘so when will it be you?’ And I shut them down. It hurts, there is also the fact that when my cousin’s fiancé had their child I was terrified I’d poison the little one though the amounts of radiation that’s pumped into me to control the implant, they don’t know how much of a risk or courage it took to challenge that and hold her the first time, I remember my jaw chuddering and trying not to cry out of sheer horror of what I’d done. She’s 7 months now and healthy as a button, but I still fear holding her, how would I react with my own child?

I dream of having a family but I know I may never have it, I hope for a partner first and a real commitment before deciding all this. I need time to learn to trust p, and time to heal, before I can remotely think about kids. I can dream all I like, I’ve got to say the thought of not having a family hurts greatly. But I can’t predict the future. I just need to take it one step at a time.

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I worry about my son having the “family curse” as well. I find myself looking for it sometimes, but I know that I shouldn’t. The other day he whined and yelled “not mama!” And I almost had a heart attack.

No kids yet, no kids ever. Too much genetic crap in my families.

If you get in trouble here - charity assistance here is $100 per person, per month only for parents. You also get information on where to line up to get chance at the other handouts. This ‘aid’ continues for 5 years before govt forces you into a job where you could never survive…in order to give the stores a tax discount. Some of the US ladies just keep their legs crossed now…Don’t take it personally, it is just for survival reasons after you had the mental illness bit pulled on a perfectly functioning and literate adult to make you into an animal…

Personally, Medicaid will pay to get me fixed only because I know how to keep asking to get around the Catholic ban on any birth control, even humane sterilization. Catholic hospitals here will not sterilize anyone, even with too many children who are going to the orphanage and no way to support them all…‘Go forth and keep multiplying’, said the Gods that be.