One of the reasons I didnt want kids was because of the genetic risk for schiz but even with that risk gone to minimal im not sure i want them… i don’t think I’d be a very good mother … im just on the fence…
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Don’t write your answer in stone. Things could change for the better.
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There are other factors that I just don’t like kids even though i may feel differently having my own i dont think I can take a risk… plus I do like to travel and we also may look into living at different places
The lonely part comes in your 50s-60s … Kids and grandkids fill that up really nicely.
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I guess we have different views on that… i have seen kids and even relatives go off the rails, im not sure i can deal with the stress … or even want to… however time can change my views who knows
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Having a child can be the greatest thing in the world. You will never feel such depth and such love for someone and such interest in all they are and do (if things are well). It can also be the most horrible thing in the world. Nothing makes you more vulnerable than a kid: if something goes wrong with them, your heart breaks harder than ever.
I dont think i would have made this choice, if i hadnt accidently fallen pregnant. I had little interest. I absolutely love my child though and wouldnt want to miss him.
There is no way to predict how it will be for you, it is a big gamble.
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If you don’t want kids, don’t have them. You don’t want to feel trapped.
And no, it is not always the greatest thing. Not if you don’t want or even like kids. Having one doesn’t mean you will magically change your mind. I have 6 and still dislike other kids. I even dislike my own at times.
It’s hard and messy and awful a lot. Other times it’s amazing and you wonder how you could ever love so much.
To have kids is a very personal thing to choose. It is your choice and never let anyone make you feep bad for being child free.
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I Never Thought About Starting a Family Until I Met a Certain Someone a Few Short Years Ago. After We Met. During Hardships. During Trauma. During Constant Confusion. And Sadness.
I Stopped. My Lacy (Pup), Was Sleeping. And After One Guy Said to Me as Lacy (Pup) Was Wondering Why There Were So Many Strangers in My Dad’s Garage, Thus Guy Said, (About Lacy (Pup)), ‘She’s Like Your Daughter isn’t She’?.
I Was Shocked. as I Watched Her Say to Herself, ‘These People Are Freaking Me Out’.
Astonished, I Responded Slightly Smiling, ‘Yea, She Kinda is’.
Later On, I Decided to Change Everything.
So I Do Plan on Having Children One Day. Kinda Waiting For The Universe to Give Me an Okay.
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You can become godmother or sponsor by donating a small amount of money every month to a child in a third world country via organizations such as UNICEF.
That child will definitely remember you and you don’t have to deal with changing diapers or picking up after school or losing sleep when they start going out alone.
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I wanted kids, but I can’t have one. Probably better that way, so as to not carry on my cursed family name.
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I want a kid. A lot. Except I can’t cope.
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Schizophrenia isn’t a curse. It’s a solvable malady.
Conventional medicine just hasn’t come around to a solution yet.
You don’t have to have kids. My sister never had kids. A good friend of mine from childhood never had kids. Lots and lots of people see that this world is full to the brim and there is just no reason to do it unless there’s a specific reason you want to. If you’re on the fence, don’t do it.
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@Leaf, the world isn’t full to the brim. It’s heading for a population crash. Going to level off around 2050 at about 10 billion then slowly decline. UN stats reflect this.
No, no. I wasn’t alluding to schizophrenia being part of the equation. All the males in my dad’s family are befallen of something or another. My dad killed himself 19 years ago. Uncles are drug addicts or hypochondriacs. Grandfather was an abusive prick.
do you understand what a huge number that is?
Barely 30% more than now. Lots of livable area also, everyone doesn’t have to cramp up the city centers.
I’m just saying she doesn’t have to have a baby if she doesn’t want to.
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That’s fine. I’m just saying it should be for the right reason. Overpopulation doesn’t appear to be one.
You’ve no idea, not even the foggiest of what I’ve been through. Don’t pretend you have the answers. And don’t presume for one second to have any insight into me or my family. Piss off.